What’s Wrong With Being A Stay At Home Mom?

First of all, nothing is wrong with choosing to be a stay at home mom.

However I feel prompted to write this blog post to just get it off my chest.

I have been a stay at home mom now for almost 10 years. I have 4 kids. Ages 10, 9, 6, and 3 currently. Two biological and two adopted; that part to me truthfully is irrelevant but it helps others to connect more and have possibly a better perception.

As I was saying, I have chosen to do this. And I am so incredibly grateful to have a very supportive husband.

I have lost count with comments like –

“I could never do that….”

“So, what do you do all day?”

“I work because staying at home is just not me”

“I don’t know how you do it.”

“Just watching your kids and taking care of your home and husband…..there is no way.”

It’s not just these phrases or words, but it’s how they say it.

They don’t understand that in a way those remarks are insulting. The stigma that stay at moms have is honesty mind boggling to me.

That we do not contribute because we are fully immersed in the role? I would argue that.

Now I KNOW that I do not have to explain, but I am saying these words to relieve myself from the years of these remarks.

I understand and deeply know how important my role as a mother is. This is not putting down working mothers. I am expressing that I deep down know that the children that I AM raising need a deeply present mother.

My husband also needs a deeply present wife, especially for the work that he is in.

And that matters to me. The presence matters to me. My inner self matters to me. Because I know if I am fully loving and caring for myself I am giving back so much more to my family.

I view where I am right now, in this season, as a calling. I am helping to establish a family foundation which by the way I did not have.

I am embodying how I want my children to live. That does mean to be a stay a home like myself. But that means to be present, to live out their dream, to love, to trust, to experience joy, to have inner peace, to understand that who they are impacts others.

May be hard to believe……but to some, like myself…….having a family to care and love for is a dream come true.