What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?
How people talk about others and to others. I pay attention to that. Ultimately it’s really about respect.
I don’t like when people center a conversation around bashing another individual. That never has really sat well with me.
And how people talk to others……name calling, passive aggressive remarks…….some can argue that that is just their sense of humor but it’s something I have learned I don’t want to be around.
I had a friend in the past who was actually pretty mean. She would make comments and follow it by a laugh so it wasn’t taken too seriously, or she would make fun of the other friends I would hang out with.
I cut her off because I had reached my limit and I legitimately told her I cannot be your friend anymore.
And when I meet people or make new friends or whatever this is something I recognize through conversation and already know it’s not for me.
Another red flag since we’re discussing it is those who are very tunnel visioned. What I mean by that is their reality is very black and white. There is no space to even try to see the other side.
I love open minded people, people who can really have in depth conversation, friends who can humble you and vice versa.
I prefer a personality that’s interested in growing and challenging oneself, not a person thats only interest is in belittling others.
Ps – one more thing that is a “red flag” – negativity. I can’t be around that. If you are constantly negative, I can’t be around that and I don’t want to be around it.
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