Author: The Wild Gems

For a moment I really had to think about what word I don’t like and a few instantly came to mind – stupid, idiot, dumbass

do you notice the pattern? The words that make a person question their intellect.

I cannot stand when people call anyone those words. Those are such belittling words and words are so powerful.

But this is the word……

retard.

Ugh, I do not like even typing it.

When I was a kid I heard others use this word often. And when you’re a kid you ask what that word means and the typical response is, someone who is stupid.

And then later you find out that retard is a person with a disability. A special needs individual.

So people categorize special needs children and adults as “stupid”? It is so completely WRONG.

I just can’t stand it and I still can’t if I ever hear someone use that word in their vocabulary. I will instantly correct them. I will call them out instantly and say that’s completely inappropriate to use that word.

I would definitely ban that word.

I know that word can be used differently but for the sad part it’s used in a derogatory manner.

And here’s the even more SAD PART, there are parents out there who call their kids those types of demeaning words! It’s heartbreaking!

I would ban all those words actually that I listed prior. Because I wouldn’t want any children being called those words.

And if your parents ever called you (readers) any of those words shame on them. I hope they have grown and I hope that you have healed.

You are so intelligent and capable so many things.

Love and light friends! I got a little heated there lol.

A few years ago I read this in a fortune cookie and these words changed me.

“If you are bored, you are not being curious enough.”

Don’t you just love that! This is exactly what I tell my kids too every time they say they are bored.

“Mom we’re bored….”

“Well……if you’re bored you’re not being what?”

“Curious enough.”

*walk away and find something to do.*

I don’t get bored anymore. I can find something in anything.

For me, everything can be an experience.

Just close your eyes once in a while and let your other senses highlight your world and reveal something entirely extraordinary.

To avoid boredom is to strengthen your imagination. You don’t have to bored, you need to stay curious and not be afraid to be a little weird and different.

The deep thinkers. The curious ones. The ones who wonder and ponder. The questioners.

And how weird to be encouraged with this question today when just last night I was sharing with my husband that I felt like I didn’t have much friends who understood me.

I have friends. But don’t we all want and crave friendships where we are seen. And who are like minded like us? Who doesn’t just brush us off as being weird or different.

If we really want to be honest, I am you, and you are me. So…..we might as well just be honest and say how we really feel. Surface level conversations are painful. I want depth!

Or, what’s a bummer is you do establish friendships where you feel in alignment, only to discover that you really weren’t.

I am in a season where it’s difficult for me to be around people who don’t love themselves or who are not confident in who they are. OR, it’s difficult to be around people who just aren’t even trying to be 1% better everyday.

And more than that, people who don’t allow me to show them how to love themselves.

Some people just don’t want to listen and thats the most frustrating part.

I can help more than people give me credit for but I also understand everyone is on their own journey. So I wait in way……

I will say I am so incredibly grateful for my blog and the internet because I know that there are people out there who think or ponder in a similar way and who are striving to be and do better everyday.

It’s rejuvenating.

And I thank you readers and writers.

You all are my people.

You all, are who I LOVE to be around.

Currently my favorite pair of shoes are not typically categorized as shoes, they are actually my slippers.

They are these light beige, slip on, clog style slippers and they are so cozy. They are not brand name or anything really special. But it’s like, being wrapped in a blanket. My body is immediately safe when I wear them.

I prefer to be grounded in comfort.

I really don’t like shoe’s honestly. I wear them when I need to but I prefer my slippers, being barefoot, or probably wearing a pair of slip on sandals.

You ever notice how kids strongly dislike wearing shoes? They always want to be barefoot.

There’s something to that. What are your thoughts?

I remember I also read something awhile back that said many people haven’t actually touched the earth with their feet in years.

Why? Because they are always wearing shoes.

You put shoes on, go where you go, come home, take off shoes, repeat.

If it’s been awhile since your feet have actually touched earth I dare you to do that today.

Stand on the earth and feel it.

Well…..I think the opportunity to be here is a pretty huge gift.

It’s pretty wild when you really sit and ponder that.

We are here, all together. And why exactly? That’s still quite the mystery.

Regardless, we are here. I get this experience right now.

Have I been here before? I have no idea, maybe I have and don’t remember.

But being here now, in this moment. I recognize that to be alive IS a gift.

My awareness is the gift.

And it’s the most bizarre thing, sometimes I feel like I’m in a dream.

But I rather have this unsettling beautiful awareness than to be oblivious of this insane miracle, which is exactly what it all is.

It’s all so weird.

Intention.

Deciphering needs vs. wants.

Health is wealth.

1. Intention

When I buy/purchase something there has to be intention behind it. I don’t just buy because it’s “a good deal” or “oh it’s on sale.” To me personally, that is the road to unnecessary items and clutter.

There needs to be a good why behind the purchase. And I ask how often will I/they use this item…what am I really getting back in return? Don’t buy just to buy. Let it be strong why.

2. Needs Vs. Wants

Most of the time, it’s just a want. You probably don’t need. How many times do we buy things and it ends up getting donated a few months later or years.

Here’s a tip though: don’t be afraid to ask your friends or family for something that you want. Just the other day I went onto my Facebook to ask if anyone had a paper shredder or blender they no longer wanted or needed because I want to learn how to make paper.

No one said they had a blender but guess what? Someone said they had a paper shredder they could give me. I have done this countless times. Don’t afraid or ashamed or embarrassed.

People have stuff, and truthfully they want to get rid of it. They will feel good giving it away to someone they know.

So don’t be afraid to ask around before you spend unnecessary money that really could go towards something else….like a trip somewhere!

3. Health Is Wealth

THIS. Invest in your health. Groceries can be expensive for example, but what I am getting in rerun is FAR greater.

But health is more than body, it’s mind and spirit.

This is the area where there is no budget to me because of the state of well being you get back.

That is priceless.

****parents****

I will say this, stop wasting your money on little party bags. Kids do not need them. The honest truth is most of the party favor bags end up in the trash or donated. Save your money. The party and the kids having a good time is ENOUGH, I promise you.