Vanilla Cookie Banana Pudding

What You Need:

In one bowl:

1 3.4 oz box of French vanilla jello pudding mix

1 3.4 oz box of banana cream jello pudding mix

1 block of cream cheese

1 14oz can of sweetened condensed milk

4 cups of milk

1 tablespoon of vanilla extract

In second bowl:

1 1/2 cup of heavy whipping cream

3/4 cup of powdered sugar

1 tablespoon of vanilla extract

A dash of cinnamon

You also need vanilla wafers and biscoff cookies


Steps:

  1. Mix together all ingredients in bowl number 1 and in bowl number two. Cover each bowl and place in the refrigerator for 30 mins.
  2. After the 30 mins mix together the two mixtures.
  3. Begin your layering. Thin layer of pudding mix, cookie, pudding, cookie, pudding.
  4. Top off the pudding with crushed vanilla wafers and biscoff cookies.

Enjoy!

*you can add fresh banana – optional*

‘Caldo De Pollo’ – Chicken And Veggie Soup

What You Need:

– 6–8 chicken drumsticks

– 2 corn cobs, cut into 3–4 chunks each

– 2–3 zucchini, sliced thick

– 3 potatoes, peeled + cut into chunks

– 3 carrots, peeled + sliced

– 2 tomatoes, diced

– ½ onion, chopped

– 4 cloves garlic, minced

– 1–2 bay leaves

– 1 bunch cilantro

– 1-2 tsp salt (to taste)

– 1 tsp chicken bouillon

– 1 tsp garlic powder

– 2-3 tablespoons of vegetable oil

Steps:

1. In a large pot, heat 1–2 tsp oil on medium. Add chopped onion, sauté 2 minutes until soft. Add minced garlic and cook 30 seconds. Add diced tomatoes and cook 2–3 minutes until they begin to soften and release juice. Then blend in blender with some water.

2. Pour the mixture into the pot. Add the chicken drumsticks on top of the sautéed mixture. Add bay leaves + 1/2 of cilantro bunch. Pour in 10–12 cups of water. Stir in salt and bouillon. Bring to a boil → then reduce to medium-low and simmer for 45 minutes with lid partially on.

3. Add:

potatoes carrots corn

Simmer 15 minutes until potatoes are almost tender.

4. Add:

zucchini

Simmer 10 more minutes.

Taste broth → adjust salt and add 1 tablespoon of vegetable oil. (You can also add chili powder, dried herbs like oregano)

Serve with:

Lime wedges, Fresh cilantro, Avocado, Corn tortillas Salsa or jalapeños.

Enjoy!

Lemon Baked Butter Chicken

Ingredients

For the chicken:

– 1.5–2 lbs chicken breast or thighs (cut into chunks or leave whole)

– 1 tsp salt

– 1 tsp paprika

– 1 tsp garam masala (optional but delicious)

– 1 tsp garlic powder

– ½ tsp onion powder

– ¼ tsp black pepper

For the sauce:

– 4 tbsp butter

– 3–4 garlic cloves, minced (or 1 tsp garlic powder)

– 1 cup heavy cream

– 1 tsp honey

– 1 tsp curry powder or garam masala ½ tsp turmeric (optional for color)

– ½ tsp salt (taste and adjust)

Optional: ¼ cup chicken broth to thin it out

1 tbsp lemon juice


Serves well with roasted broccoli and rice.

Enjoy!

Soften The Heart #33 : Children Are a Gift — Even When Our Childhood Didn’t Feel Like One

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from Him.”

Psalm 127:3

Children are one of the clearest pictures of God’s heart. Their curiosity, honesty, wonder, and purity remind us of what truly matters. Scripture tells us that children are a gift — not because of what they do, but because of who they are: reflections of God’s creativity and love.

As parents, this verse reminds us to slow down and cherish our kids, to remember that they’re not burdens or interruptions but blessings entrusted to us. They bring joy, purpose, and a fresh view of the world.

But for many adults, this verse can stir something deeper.

Not everyone grew up feeling protected, valued, or cherished. Some people carry wounds from a childhood where they were mistreated, overlooked, or harmed. And hearing “children are a gift” can feel confusing — even painful.

So if that’s you, here’s something important to know:

**God’s intention for children was always good.

Your pain was never His plan.**

When the Bible calls children a gift, it is describing how God sees them — not how every human treats them. Some adults act out of their own brokenness, and their choices leave deep marks on innocent hearts. But your mistreatment was never a reflection of your worth. You were always precious. You were always a gift. Someone else simply failed to honor what God created.

And God grieves with you.

He is “close to the brokenhearted” (Psalm 34:18) and fiercely protective of the vulnerable. Jesus Himself said it would be better for a person to be thrown into the sea than to harm a child (Matthew 18:6). That means He saw you. He cared. He never agreed with what was done to you.

The good news?

God restores what was wounded.

He heals the childhood parts of us that were hurt, silenced, or forgotten. And He gently rebuilds what was broken — identity, trust, safety, and hope.

So whether you grew up cherished or neglected, this verse has a message for you:

Cherish the children in your life today — including the child you once were.

Let today be a reminder to love your kids with intention and tenderness…

but also to let God love and restore the parts of you that didn’t receive that same tenderness growing up.

Children are a gift.

And that includes you — the child you used to be, and the person you are becoming.

A Hidden World: What Uncontacted Tribes Teach Us About Ourselves

Every once in a while, something crosses your path that stops you in your tracks — something that makes you question everything you thought you knew about the world.

That was me the other day, reading an article about a drone capturing footage of a group of people living deep in a remote region… completely cut off from modern society.

Not unaware.

Not forgotten.

Just choosing to live outside of our world.

There are still entire villages — real people, real families, real lives — who have never stepped foot into our “modern” world. They have no electricity, no phones, no clocks, no social media, no government systems, no advertisements telling them what they need, no pressure to become anything other than who they already are.

They live in a world that feels like a parallel reality.

And it fascinates me.

But more than that… it teaches us something.

1. A Full Life Doesn’t Require Our Definition of “Full”

We’re conditioned to believe that fulfillment comes from:

achievements productivity growth comfort convenience

Yet these tribes live full, meaningful, deep lives without any of the things we chase every day.

No noise.

No chaos.

No comparison.

Just existence — pure, present, human.

It makes you pause and wonder:

Are we actually thriving… or are we just endlessly busy?

2. “Progress” Isn’t Universal

From the outside, we might assume they’re “behind” — that our world is somehow superior or more advanced.

But the truth is striking:

They do not want our world.

They choose theirs, proudly and intentionally.

To them, our world isn’t an upgrade — it’s a disruption.

Their world is home, identity, freedom, rhythm.

And they guard it fiercely.

It makes you rethink what “better” even means.

3. They Are Living Echoes of Human Origins

Watching footage of them feels like looking through a window into how humanity once lived:

connected to the land bonded through community surviving through wisdom passed down for generations living according to the earth’s rhythms, not man-made ones

They are a reminder of who we used to be before modern life overstimulated our minds and fragmented our attention.

4. There Are Still Mysteries in the World

We love to think we’ve discovered everything.

Mapped every corner.

Documented every culture.

But then—

a drone flies overhead and reveals an entire village hidden beneath the trees.

It’s humbling.

It reminds us that Earth is still wild, sacred, and full of secrets.

The world is bigger and more mysterious than our little bubbles allow us to imagine.

5. They Teach Us Holy Boundaries

These villages avoid contact not out of fear, but out of wisdom:

outsiders bring disease outsiders bring exploitation outsiders bring change that erases culture

They protect their world the way we should protect our inner peace — fiercely, intentionally, unapologetically.

Not everything is meant to be shared.

Not everything is meant to be exposed.

Some things are sacred, and sacred things require boundaries.

6. They Make Us Rethink “Civilization”

We assume we’re more civilized because we have technology and systems.

But what if civilization is also:

emotional closeness communal purpose spiritual grounding simplicity harmony with the land

Who’s actually more aligned with life —

them, or us?

7. They Wake Us Up Spiritually

Seeing people who live untouched by noise or comparison shakes something loose in your soul.

It makes you ask:

What would my life look like without distraction?

Without pressure?

Without the constant hum of stress and expectation?

It makes you wonder who you would be if you never had to perform for the world.

Sometimes I think:

Maybe they aren’t the ones missing out.

Maybe we are.

A Final Thought

These tribes remind us that there is no single way to be human.

No universal path.

No timeline we must follow.

They are living proof that a meaningful life can look wildly different from what we’re taught to chase.

And maybe —

just maybe —

they’re here to remind us to slow down, reconnect, simplify, and remember that the world, at its core, is still full of wonder.

Unpeeling the Layers: Beginning Shadow Work

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung

We all have parts of ourselves that we hide — not because they’re bad, but because somewhere along the way, we were taught they shouldn’t exist, or we felt embarrassed or shame.

The truth is, your “shadow” isn’t evil. It’s simply the unseen — the pieces of you that crave your love and understanding.

A huge part of my very own shadow work has been working through the trauma of being adopted. Emotions and feelings that I battled internally by myself.

Healing takes time; remember that.

What Is Shadow Work?

Shadow work is the practice of bringing light to those unseen parts.

It’s about facing your fears, triggers, insecurities, and buried emotions with honesty and compassion.

When you do, something incredible happens:

what once controlled you from the dark begins to heal in the light.

Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering yourself. It’s about making the connections.

How to Begin Shadow Work

1. Create a safe space

Find a quiet place where you can be fully honest. Light a candle, journal, or simply sit in reflection. Shadow work requires gentleness and patience — you’re opening emotional layers that have been closed for a reason.

2. Observe your triggers

Notice what upsets, annoys, or frustrates you in others.

These moments are mirrors — reflections of something within you asking to be seen. Instead of judging the feeling, get curious about it.

3. Meet your emotions without judgment

When anger, jealousy, or sadness arises, don’t push it away. Ask it what it’s trying to show you. Often, our strongest emotions lead directly to our deepest wounds.

4. Journal through the layers

Writing can help you uncover truths you didn’t know you were hiding. Be honest, messy, and real — no one ever has to read it.

Shadow Work Prompts to Begin

• What emotion do I avoid feeling the most, and why?

• What do I criticize most in others that might live within me too?

• What parts of myself do I struggle to accept or show to the world?

• When do I feel unworthy, and where did that belief begin?

• What am I still holding resentment about, and what lesson might be hidden inside it?

• What situations make me feel small, and who taught me that shrinking was safer?

• What am I afraid people would think if they truly knew me?

• What does my inner child need from me right now?

• In what ways do I self-sabotage when things start going well?

• If my pain could speak, what would it say?

Remember: You Are the Light and the Shadow

Shadow work isn’t about becoming “perfect.” It’s about wholeness — learning to hold both the light and the dark with love. Yin and yang.

Each layer you peel back reveals more truth, more compassion, more freedom.

Healing begins the moment you stop running from yourself and start listening.

The Real Reason We Don’t Have World Peace (And How We Can Find It Within)

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

We talk about world peace as if it’s something out there — a dream we keep chasing but can’t quite reach. Yet maybe the reason we can’t find peace in the world is because we haven’t yet found it within ourselves.

Government shutdowns, wars, and constant divisions are only mirrors of a deeper human truth: we are disconnected. From each other. From nature. From the still voice inside us that remembers what really matters.

The Surface of Conflict

On the surface, countries fight over land, money, and power. Politicians argue over who’s right. But beneath it all lies the same root cause: fear.

Fear of losing control. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being heard.

When fear leads, compassion fades. And when compassion fades, peace cannot survive.

The Inner War

The world is simply a reflection of the collective inner world of its people.

So many of us carry anger, guilt, resentment, or unhealed wounds — and those emotions ripple outward. We argue, we judge, we close our hearts. It’s no wonder nations do the same.

The truth is, world peace begins with inner peace.

When you choose to forgive someone instead of holding onto pain… when you pause before reacting in anger… when you take a breath instead of shouting back — you shift the frequency of the world around you.

That’s not just poetic. It’s energetic law.

The Forgotten Connection

We’ve been taught to see differences instead of similarities — race, religion, gender, politics. But beyond those layers, we are made of the same dust, the same breath, the same light.

When you look into someone’s eyes and see yourself reflected there, peace is already happening.

We forget that we are not separate waves crashing against each other — we are the same ocean, simply moving in different forms.

The Hope That Still Lives

World peace might never come from a treaty or a politician’s promise.

It might come from something much quieter — the mother teaching her children to be kind, the friend who listens without judgment, the stranger who offers a smile when you need it most.

Every small act of love is a piece of peace.

And when enough of us find peace inside ourselves, the world will no longer have a choice but to reflect it back.

Understanding Your Luteal Phase: The Inner Autumn of Your Cycle And How To Honor This Season

Your inner Autumn is the luteal phase of your cycle — the days after ovulation and before your period (one or two weeks before you begin).

Just like the season, it’s a time of slowing down, turning inward, and releasing what you no longer need. You may feel more sensitive, reflective, or craving rest. It’s your body’s way of preparing for renewal.

What’s Happening in Your Body

After you ovulate, your body begins to produce more progesterone, a hormone that helps prepare your uterus for a possible pregnancy. If no fertilized egg implants, hormone levels eventually drop, signaling your body that it’s time to shed the uterine lining — which becomes your period.

This phase usually lasts around 10–14 days. (as mentioned one to two before your period. Side note: every woman’s body is different. Some may last longer or shorter.)

How You Might Feel

As hormones shift, it’s normal to notice changes both physically and emotionally. Some common experiences during the luteal phase include:

•Feeling more tired or sensitive

• Bloating or breast tenderness

• A stronger need for rest and reflection

• Cravings for comfort foods

• Desire for alone time or quiet

• Moody/Irritable

• The need to clean or organize

You may also notice that while your energy is lower, your intuition and emotional awareness become stronger. This is a beautiful time to reflect, tidy up loose ends, and nurture yourself.


How To Honor Your ‘Inner Autumn’ As A Woman – Luteal Phase

1. Slow the pace

Say gentle “no’s” to things that drain you. Schedule fewer social plans and more cozy, restorative time. Allow yourself to rest without guilt — this is nature’s built-in reset.

2. Nourish your body

Eat warm, grounding foods: roasted vegetables, soups, oats, root veggies, and herbal teas (especially cinnamon, ginger, and chamomile). Focus on complex carbs and magnesium-rich foods (like bananas, dark chocolate, nuts, and leafy greens) to ease PMS and support calm. Stay hydrated, especially if you tend to bloat or get constipated.

3. Nurture your emotions

Journal what’s coming up — your luteal phase often reveals what’s not aligned in your life. Be gentle with yourself; your sensitivity is heightened for a reason. Create small rituals of comfort (warm bath, candlelight, quiet evenings).

4. Support your energy

Choose slower, grounding movement like yoga, stretching, or walking. Prioritize sleep and listen to your body’s cues to rest earlier. Practice breathwork or meditation to calm mental chatter.

5. Spiritually honor it

See this time as your “inner autumn” — a season of release, reflection, and preparation for renewal. Ask yourself: What am I ready to let go of before my new cycle begins? Light a candle or take a mindful moment each evening to thank your body for all it’s doing.

Your luteal phase is a teacher — it asks for presence, patience, and trust in your natural rhythms.

When you honor it, you often notice fewer PMS symptoms, more emotional clarity, and a deeper sense of peace with your body.

The Spotlight Effect: Realizing No One’s Watching as Closely as You Think

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt


Have you ever replayed something you said in your head over and over — wondering if you sounded awkward, if someone noticed your mistake, or if you embarrassed yourself?

That’s the spotlight effect at work, the belief that others are paying far more attention to us than they really are.

What the Spotlight Effect Really Is

Psychologists call it the spotlight effect because we tend to imagine we’re standing under a bright light — with everyone’s eyes fixed on us.

But in truth, most people are too busy standing under their own spotlight, worrying about their own words, appearance, or choices.

It’s a kind of shared illusion — we’re all thinking the same thing:

“They must have noticed.”

When in reality, everyone’s thinking, “I hope they didn’t notice me.”

Why We Feel This Way

It’s human.

Our minds are wired for self-awareness — it helps us stay connected and accepted.

But when that awareness turns into over-awareness, we start shrinking ourselves to avoid judgment that rarely exists.

We hold back from sharing our ideas, trying new things, or simply being ourselves — because we think the world is watching.

But here’s the truth:

Most people are moving through their own lives, their own insecurities, their own thoughts.

You are the main character in your story — not theirs.

A Gentle Shift in Perspective

The next time you feel self-conscious, pause and ask:

“What if no one’s actually watching? What if I’m free to be exactly who I am?”

When you release the imagined audience, life softens.

You start laughing louder, speaking more honestly, and showing up as your authentic self.

And ironically — that’s when people are most drawn to you, not because you’re perfect, but because you’re real.


✨ Journal Challenge: Step Out of the Spotlight

Prompt:

When was the last time I held myself back because I worried about what others might think?

What might I do differently if I truly believed no one was judging me?

Write your answers, then whisper the mantra:

“I am free to be seen, as I am.”

When you realize the spotlight was never really there, you stop performing and start living.

And that freedom?

It’s the kind of light that doesn’t shine on you… it shines from you.

The Trap of Memetic Desires: Learning to Want What’s Truly Yours

“We are not merely influenced by others — we are shaped by what they desire.”

René Girard


Have you ever wanted something simply because someone else seemed to?

A certain lifestyle, job, relationship, or version of happiness — one that didn’t even cross your mind until you saw it shining in someone else’s hands?

That’s what philosopher René Girard called a memetic desire; a desire we absorb rather than originate.

It’s when our wants aren’t born from within, but borrowed from the world around us.

How Mimicry Shapes Desire

As children, we learn by imitation. We mimic how others talk, dress, and behave. But Girard suggested that imitation runs deeper than action — it shapes desire itself.

We don’t just copy what others do; we copy what they want.

And in a world overflowing with highlight reels, that’s a powerful and often dangerous thing.

Think about it:

You scroll through social media and suddenly feel drawn to a certain aesthetic or lifestyle you never cared about before. You hear your peers talking about success, and suddenly your definition of “enough” changes. You see two people in love online, and suddenly you’re not sure if you want love or just the image of it.

That’s the quiet pull of mimetic desire — subtle, yet powerful.

Recognizing the Signs

You might be caught in the current of memetic desire if:

You feel restless or “behind” after seeing others’ achievements. You chase things that look good on the outside but don’t feel right inside. Your desires change rapidly based on who you’re around or what you consume.

Memetic desires are like mirrors — they reflect others’ longings until we mistake them for our own.

🌱 Returning to Your Authentic Desires

The good news is, once you see the pattern, you can step outside it.

Here are a few ways to return home to your true desires:

1. Pause before you pursue.

Ask yourself: When did I start wanting this?

Did this desire come from a quiet inner pull, or from seeing someone else with it?

2. Sit in stillness.

Your authentic desires don’t shout — they whisper. Create space for silence, journaling, prayer, or time in nature.

When the noise fades, the truth emerges.

3. Listen to your body.

Memetic desires create tension and chasing. Authentic ones feel peaceful and grounded — even if they ask for courage.

4. Define success for yourself.

Write down what a “fulfilled life” truly means to you — not what society defines as success.

Revisit it often to stay anchored.

5. Surround yourself with grounded souls.

We absorb the energy of those around us. Stay close to people who value depth over display.

The Gift of Awareness

The moment you become aware of memetic desire, it loses its power.

You begin to want less of what glitters — and more of what’s real.

You start noticing how much peace lives in authenticity.

Because at the end of the day, your soul didn’t come here to copy.

It came to remember itself.

“You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.” – John Mason