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Modern Distractions and the Quiet Return to Yourself

April 30, 2026 The Wild Gems2 Comments

We live in a world that is constantly asking for our attention.

Not always loudly. Sometimes it’s subtle. A quick glance at the phone. A habit of filling silence. A pull to stay mentally “on” even when nothing is actually happening.

And slowly, without noticing, we can start living more reactively than presently.

Same world, deeper view… but only when we pause long enough to actually see it.

The nature of modern distraction

Most distractions today don’t feel like distractions in the moment. They feel normal. Even necessary.

But if you begin to observe them closely, you start to notice a pattern—they pull us out of direct experience and into constant stimulation.

Not to label them as bad, but to simply become aware.

Digital noise

Our phones are often the first and last thing we touch in a day.

Scrolling without intention
Checking notifications out of habit
Moving from app to app without realizing how much time has passed
Short-form videos that keep the mind in constant motion

None of this is unusual anymore. But it does something quietly—it fragments attention.

The mind that never stops

Even when we’re not on our phones, the mind continues the movement.

Replaying conversations
Imagining future outcomes
Comparing our lives to others
Trying to solve problems that are not happening in the present moment

It’s not wrong. It’s just busy.

And sometimes, busyness can become a way of avoiding stillness.

The pace of life

We’ve learned to equate movement with productivity.

Always rushing, even when there’s no urgency
Filling every quiet moment with sound or content
Overbooking our time so there’s no space left to just be

But depth doesn’t grow in rush. It grows in space.

Subtle forms of escape

Not all distractions look like technology.

Sometimes it’s:

Shopping to shift a feeling
Seeking validation through responses or attention
Constantly trying to improve or fix ourselves
Mistaking information for transformation

Even “growth” can become a distraction if it keeps us from actually being here.

What begins to change when you notice

You don’t have to remove everything.

You just start noticing.

And in that noticing, something quiet happens—you begin to return.

Return to:

the moment you are actually in
the experience happening right in front of you
the simplicity of being aware

This is where perception starts to deepen.

Not because the world changes…
but because you are no longer moving through it on autopilot.

Same world.
Deeper view.

A softer way of living

Maybe the goal isn’t to escape distraction completely.

Maybe it’s just to notice when you’ve been pulled away… and gently come back.

Over and over again.

Not perfectly.
Not forcefully.
Just consistently.

Because life is not happening in the next scroll, the next thought, or the next moment of stimulation.

It’s happening here.

Always here.

A Flys Purpose – Learning To Appreciate

April 27, 2026 The Wild GemsLeave a comment

Flies are easy to dislike, but they’re actually doing a lot of quiet, essential work in the background of life. If you shift the lens just a little, they start to look less like annoyances and more like tiny recyclers keeping the world moving.

First, they’re nature’s cleanup crew. Many flies, especially species like the housefly, feed on decaying organic matter. That means they help break down dead plants, food waste, and even animal remains. Without them (and organisms like them), the world would literally start piling up with decay.

They’re also surprisingly important for pollination. We always think of bees, but flies visit flowers too, transferring pollen as they go. Some plants actually rely heavily on flies to reproduce.

Then there’s their role in the food chain. Flies are a major food source for birds, frogs, spiders, and other insects. So even if they feel small and insignificant, they’re supporting entire ecosystems.

And here’s one people don’t think about much: flies help with nutrient recycling. By breaking things down, they return nutrients to the soil, which helps plants grow. It’s like they’re part of this invisible loop—nothing wasted, everything transformed.

If you want a more metaphorical way to see them:

flies are reminders that even the parts of life we resist have a role. They move toward what we avoid—decay, mess, endings—and turn it into something that feeds new life. There’s something almost poetic in that.

You don’t have to love them hovering around your food—but maybe you can see them as little workers in a much bigger system, doing a job most of us wouldn’t want to do.

**Here are some ways to keep flies out without harming them:**

1. Open the “exit door” strategy
When a fly gets in, open a window or door and turn off indoor lights if it’s daytime. Flies naturally move toward light, so they’ll often find their way out on their own.

2. Use a simple catch-and-release
Grab a cup and a piece of paper. Gently place the cup over the fly, slide the paper underneath, and carry it outside. It’s quick, and once you get the hang of it, surprisingly easy.

3. Make your home less inviting
Flies, like the housefly, are drawn to food smells and moisture.

Keep fruit in the fridge or covered
Take trash out regularly
Wipe down counters after meals
You’re not fighting them—you’re just removing the invitation.

4. Natural scent deterrents
Flies dislike certain smells. Things like basil, mint, lavender, or eucalyptus near windows can help discourage them from coming in.

5. Gentle airflow
A fan near entry points can help—flies aren’t strong fliers, so moving air makes it harder for them to settle inside.

Walking Away to Come Back

March 26, 2026 The Wild Gems2 Comments

“How can you walk away from something and still come back to it?”
— Coraline

I used to think this meant returning to a person or a place.

But I think it’s about life itself.

We spend so much of our time believing happiness is waiting somewhere else. Somewhere bigger, louder, more exciting. A different house. A different body. A different stage of life. We quietly assume this ordinary day cannot possibly be “it.”

So we mentally walk away.

We chase improvement. We chase identity. We chase the feeling that something is missing.

And maybe we even reach some of it — the goals, the recognition, the change.

But then something unexpected happens.

It doesn’t fill what we thought it would.

Because stimulation is not the same thing as peace.

Slowly we begin to notice the small things we once overlooked — morning light in the kitchen, a familiar laugh from another room, simple meals, quiet routines, the people who were beside us the entire time.

You only understand the value of water when you’ve been thirsty.

And sometimes we only understand the value of our lives after we’ve tried to outgrow them.

We come back.

Not because life became smaller,
but because our sight became clearer.

We didn’t actually return to the same life.
We returned with understanding.

Sometimes the journey away is necessary, because it teaches us how to finally see what was already enough.

We didn’t come back to less.

We came back to what was real.

The Collapse Before The Finish Line

February 5, 2026 The Wild Gems1 Comment

The collapse before the finish line……

do you know what I’m talking about?

Those runners who begin a strenuous marathon….at first the momentum is strong. The adrenaline is pumped, they are excited, they are waving to people!

Then, towards the middle the smile turns into a smirk, the pace has become slowed, they are focusing on their breathing, one step at a time….

Towards the end, they see the actual finish line.

That’s when the tears come, all of sudden they become so weak though they are so close! So close! The finish line is right there!

And then they either finish strong through the grace of God or who knows ..or they collapse…….

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But what happens then…….

Support comes. Family, friends, even strangers carry that runner to the finish line. They cross together. Celebrating strength, growth, perseverance, determination, courage, bravery……

There are people who are collapsing right now. They need your help. They are so close to that finish line but they cannot do it without your help.

There are so many ways we can encourage, support, and lift others. And the smallest ways believe it or not are the most powerful.

Be that person. And let others CARRY YOU TOO.

You have to let others carry you too!

Love and light my friends. We got this!

Why Don’t We All Want to Heal?

February 4, 2026 The Wild Gems2 Comments

Lately, I’ve been sitting with a question that keeps returning to me:

Why don’t more people want to do the work of inner healing and change?

Not in a judgmental way.

Things CAN Get Worse

January 13, 2026January 13, 2026 The Wild Gems2 Comments

You know something I never say, “it can’t get worse than this.”

Call me superstitious or what but I’ve watched enough movies and read enough books that prove the point that it can and possibly will be worse when you test the theory.

Last year towards the end of 2024 my mom had an incredibly rough year.

She lost both of her parents. It happened very fast. My Grandma was in her early 80s and my Grandpa was in his 90s. My grandma passed and then 80 days later my grandpa.

During that ordeal my mom broke her ankle and was healing and plus she had been dealing with all sorts of family drama from her side. It was a nightmare for her. That’s actually an understatement.

Anyways one day we were talking on the phone and she was expressing how she was ready for the new year and that it can only go up from here not get any worse.

I said, “mom don’t say that.”

And she was like, “what..”

and I said, “saying things can’t get worse. They always can. You’ve watched movies! You just don’t say that!”

And then she was like, “wow marie, I didn’t realize how superstitious you were.”

And I was like, “‘mom that’s just truth. Same with if you want to make God laugh you tell him your plans.”

Well guess what you guys…….

My moms foot is still healing by the way but she calls me yesterday and says,

“Marie, I still want you to come up and visit….but umm….”

Me – “mom what is it?”

Her – “I slipped on some ice and broke my back ribs.”

*silence*

Me – “mom!! Are you serious!!! Mom!! This is what i told you! You said it can only go up from here and not get worse and you just broke your ribs!”

Her – “Marie don’t make me laugh, it hurts. I am never saying that again.”

lol oh my gosh. Thank goodness my mom has a great sense of humor and was in good spirits and we had a really good laugh about it.

But let this be a lesson folks!

Don’t test the unknown.

Soften The Heart #33 : Children Are a Gift — Even When Our Childhood Didn’t Feel Like One

November 21, 2025 The Wild Gems1 Comment

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from Him.”

Psalm 127:3

Children are one of the clearest pictures of God’s heart. Their curiosity, honesty, wonder, and purity remind us of what truly matters. Scripture tells us that children are a gift — not because of what they do, but because of who they are: reflections of God’s creativity and love.

As parents, this verse reminds us to slow down and cherish our kids, to remember that they’re not burdens or interruptions but blessings entrusted to us. They bring joy, purpose, and a fresh view of the world.

But for many adults, this verse can stir something deeper.

Not everyone grew up feeling protected, valued, or cherished. Some people carry wounds from a childhood where they were mistreated, overlooked, or harmed. And hearing “children are a gift” can feel confusing — even painful.

So if that’s you, here’s something important to know:

**God’s intention for children was always good.

Your pain was never His plan.**

When the Bible calls children a gift, it is describing how God sees them — not how every human treats them. Some adults act out of their own brokenness, and their choices leave deep marks on innocent hearts. But your mistreatment was never a reflection of your worth. You were always precious. You were always a gift. Someone else simply failed to honor what God created.

And God grieves with you.

He is “close to the brokenhearted” (Psalm 34:18) and fiercely protective of the vulnerable. Jesus Himself said it would be better for a person to be thrown into the sea than to harm a child (Matthew 18:6). That means He saw you. He cared. He never agreed with what was done to you.

The good news?

God restores what was wounded.

He heals the childhood parts of us that were hurt, silenced, or forgotten. And He gently rebuilds what was broken — identity, trust, safety, and hope.

So whether you grew up cherished or neglected, this verse has a message for you:

Cherish the children in your life today — including the child you once were.

Let today be a reminder to love your kids with intention and tenderness…

but also to let God love and restore the parts of you that didn’t receive that same tenderness growing up.

Children are a gift.

And that includes you — the child you used to be, and the person you are becoming.

A Hidden World: What Uncontacted Tribes Teach Us About Ourselves

November 20, 2025 The Wild Gems2 Comments

Every once in a while, something crosses your path that stops you in your tracks — something that makes you question everything you thought you knew about the world.

That was me the other day, reading an article about a drone capturing footage of a group of people living deep in a remote region… completely cut off from modern society.

Not unaware.

Not forgotten.

Just choosing to live outside of our world.

There are still entire villages — real people, real families, real lives — who have never stepped foot into our “modern” world. They have no electricity, no phones, no clocks, no social media, no government systems, no advertisements telling them what they need, no pressure to become anything other than who they already are.

They live in a world that feels like a parallel reality.

And it fascinates me.

But more than that… it teaches us something.

1. A Full Life Doesn’t Require Our Definition of “Full”

We’re conditioned to believe that fulfillment comes from:

achievements productivity growth comfort convenience

Yet these tribes live full, meaningful, deep lives without any of the things we chase every day.

No noise.

No chaos.

No comparison.

Just existence — pure, present, human.

It makes you pause and wonder:

Are we actually thriving… or are we just endlessly busy?

2. “Progress” Isn’t Universal

From the outside, we might assume they’re “behind” — that our world is somehow superior or more advanced.

But the truth is striking:

They do not want our world.

They choose theirs, proudly and intentionally.

To them, our world isn’t an upgrade — it’s a disruption.

Their world is home, identity, freedom, rhythm.

And they guard it fiercely.

It makes you rethink what “better” even means.

3. They Are Living Echoes of Human Origins

Watching footage of them feels like looking through a window into how humanity once lived:

connected to the land bonded through community surviving through wisdom passed down for generations living according to the earth’s rhythms, not man-made ones

They are a reminder of who we used to be before modern life overstimulated our minds and fragmented our attention.

4. There Are Still Mysteries in the World

We love to think we’ve discovered everything.

Mapped every corner.

Documented every culture.

But then—

a drone flies overhead and reveals an entire village hidden beneath the trees.

It’s humbling.

It reminds us that Earth is still wild, sacred, and full of secrets.

The world is bigger and more mysterious than our little bubbles allow us to imagine.

5. They Teach Us Holy Boundaries

These villages avoid contact not out of fear, but out of wisdom:

outsiders bring disease outsiders bring exploitation outsiders bring change that erases culture

They protect their world the way we should protect our inner peace — fiercely, intentionally, unapologetically.

Not everything is meant to be shared.

Not everything is meant to be exposed.

Some things are sacred, and sacred things require boundaries.

6. They Make Us Rethink “Civilization”

We assume we’re more civilized because we have technology and systems.

But what if civilization is also:

emotional closeness communal purpose spiritual grounding simplicity harmony with the land

Who’s actually more aligned with life —

them, or us?

7. They Wake Us Up Spiritually

Seeing people who live untouched by noise or comparison shakes something loose in your soul.

It makes you ask:

What would my life look like without distraction?

Without pressure?

Without the constant hum of stress and expectation?

It makes you wonder who you would be if you never had to perform for the world.

Sometimes I think:

Maybe they aren’t the ones missing out.

Maybe we are.

A Final Thought

These tribes remind us that there is no single way to be human.

No universal path.

No timeline we must follow.

They are living proof that a meaningful life can look wildly different from what we’re taught to chase.

And maybe —

just maybe —

they’re here to remind us to slow down, reconnect, simplify, and remember that the world, at its core, is still full of wonder.

Unpeeling the Layers: Beginning Shadow Work

November 2, 2025 The Wild Gems1 Comment

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung

We all have parts of ourselves that we hide — not because they’re bad, but because somewhere along the way, we were taught they shouldn’t exist, or we felt embarrassed or shame.

The truth is, your “shadow” isn’t evil. It’s simply the unseen — the pieces of you that crave your love and understanding.

A huge part of my very own shadow work has been working through the trauma of being adopted. Emotions and feelings that I battled internally by myself.

Healing takes time; remember that.

What Is Shadow Work?

Shadow work is the practice of bringing light to those unseen parts.

It’s about facing your fears, triggers, insecurities, and buried emotions with honesty and compassion.

When you do, something incredible happens:

what once controlled you from the dark begins to heal in the light.

Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering yourself. It’s about making the connections.

How to Begin Shadow Work

1. Create a safe space

Find a quiet place where you can be fully honest. Light a candle, journal, or simply sit in reflection. Shadow work requires gentleness and patience — you’re opening emotional layers that have been closed for a reason.

2. Observe your triggers

Notice what upsets, annoys, or frustrates you in others.

These moments are mirrors — reflections of something within you asking to be seen. Instead of judging the feeling, get curious about it.

3. Meet your emotions without judgment

When anger, jealousy, or sadness arises, don’t push it away. Ask it what it’s trying to show you. Often, our strongest emotions lead directly to our deepest wounds.

4. Journal through the layers

Writing can help you uncover truths you didn’t know you were hiding. Be honest, messy, and real — no one ever has to read it.

Shadow Work Prompts to Begin

• What emotion do I avoid feeling the most, and why?

• What do I criticize most in others that might live within me too?

• What parts of myself do I struggle to accept or show to the world?

• When do I feel unworthy, and where did that belief begin?

• What am I still holding resentment about, and what lesson might be hidden inside it?

• What situations make me feel small, and who taught me that shrinking was safer?

• What am I afraid people would think if they truly knew me?

• What does my inner child need from me right now?

• In what ways do I self-sabotage when things start going well?

• If my pain could speak, what would it say?

Remember: You Are the Light and the Shadow

Shadow work isn’t about becoming “perfect.” It’s about wholeness — learning to hold both the light and the dark with love. Yin and yang.

Each layer you peel back reveals more truth, more compassion, more freedom.

Healing begins the moment you stop running from yourself and start listening.

The Real Reason We Don’t Have World Peace (And How We Can Find It Within)

October 31, 2025 The Wild Gems2 Comments

“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

We talk about world peace as if it’s something out there — a dream we keep chasing but can’t quite reach. Yet maybe the reason we can’t find peace in the world is because we haven’t yet found it within ourselves.

Government shutdowns, wars, and constant divisions are only mirrors of a deeper human truth: we are disconnected. From each other. From nature. From the still voice inside us that remembers what really matters.

The Surface of Conflict

On the surface, countries fight over land, money, and power. Politicians argue over who’s right. But beneath it all lies the same root cause: fear.

Fear of losing control. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being heard.

When fear leads, compassion fades. And when compassion fades, peace cannot survive.

The Inner War

The world is simply a reflection of the collective inner world of its people.

So many of us carry anger, guilt, resentment, or unhealed wounds — and those emotions ripple outward. We argue, we judge, we close our hearts. It’s no wonder nations do the same.

The truth is, world peace begins with inner peace.

When you choose to forgive someone instead of holding onto pain… when you pause before reacting in anger… when you take a breath instead of shouting back — you shift the frequency of the world around you.

That’s not just poetic. It’s energetic law.

The Forgotten Connection

We’ve been taught to see differences instead of similarities — race, religion, gender, politics. But beyond those layers, we are made of the same dust, the same breath, the same light.

When you look into someone’s eyes and see yourself reflected there, peace is already happening.

We forget that we are not separate waves crashing against each other — we are the same ocean, simply moving in different forms.

The Hope That Still Lives

World peace might never come from a treaty or a politician’s promise.

It might come from something much quieter — the mother teaching her children to be kind, the friend who listens without judgment, the stranger who offers a smile when you need it most.

Every small act of love is a piece of peace.

And when enough of us find peace inside ourselves, the world will no longer have a choice but to reflect it back.