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The Memory Of A Strangers Care
Have you ever wondered who remembers you—and why? I often think about the strangers who remain vivid in my mind, sometimes for the smallest, most random moments. You never know how a single encounter might linger in someone’s life—or how you might have touched theirs.
There’s one memory I carry with me that I still wonder about, even now, nearly twenty years later. It was nighttime, and I was crying in my car—not bawling, but tears were quietly streaming down my face. I pulled up to a red light and glanced out the window. In the car next to me, a stranger looked back. His face was filled with genuine concern as he mouthed, “Are you okay?”
I nodded, assuring him I was fine, even though I wasn’t. The light turned green, and just like that, the moment ended.
What I noticed after I drove away was that I had been seen. This stranger didn’t just glance over; he noticed me. He waited for me to meet his eyes before silently asking if I was okay. Even now, as I write this, I’m thinking about him. I can’t remember what he looked like, but I’ll never forget the care in his expression.
It makes me realize how much people care—sometimes even without knowing us. When we see someone hurting, we feel it too. Empathy can be immediate and unspoken.
I’ve always believed that if I had shaken my head, if I had signaled that I wasn’t okay, this person would have followed me or stopped to help. That’s the depth of concern I felt in that fleeting moment.
For the record, I remember why I was crying that night—I had just had a fight with my boyfriend. But what stayed with me wasn’t the fight or the tears. It was the stranger’s compassion, so simple yet profound.
Sometimes, I wonder if he remembers me—the girl crying in the car at a red light. Maybe he doesn’t. But the fact that he cared enough to check on me is something I’ll always carry.
Some memories stay with us because they make us feel something. And those feelings—those moments of connection—can’t be erased.
Be Vulnerable And Let Love In
There is a lot less pain when we keep ourselves reserved. But when we close ourselves off, we also miss out on the immense beauty of love. Love is always a risk, and while it can bring heartache, I promise you—it’s worth it. Embracing love is not something you will ever regret.
Still, we cannot ignore the truth about love: when it’s lost, it lingers.
Losing love is like reaching the most gripping part of a story, only to turn the page and find it blank. The rest of the book is empty—full of unanswered questions, leaving you with a longing for what could have been.
“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,” Alfred Lord Tennyson once said. And he was right. Love leaves its mark, even in its absence. It shapes us, teaching us to feel deeply, to grow, and to carry its lessons forward.
Love is universal—it binds us together. It’s something we all seek and something we all grieve when it’s gone. But the loss of love should never overshadow the joy of experiencing it.
Yes, love makes us vulnerable, but it also opens doors to the most profound parts of being human. To love deeply is to live fully. Even in its risks and heartaches, love teaches us who we are.
So let love in. Be vulnerable. It’s the bravest thing you can do—and the most rewarding.
“To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven’t lived a life at all.”
Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy
Albert Einstein once said, “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” How often do we judge ourselves—or others—by the wrong standards?
How often do we believe we should climb a tree when we’re meant to swim?
See yourself for who you truly are. Explore the journey of self-discovery. How else do we grow?
The truth is, each of us is our own. You can’t compare your growth to someone else’s. You are not meant to be them, and they are not meant to be you. Some people thrive in the spotlight, sharing their lives boldly for all to see, while others find their strength in private moments, nurturing their growth quietly. Neither is wrong. Both are necessary.
It’s easy to get caught up in the comparison game, measuring ourselves against someone else’s timeline, achievements, or personality. But just as every flower blooms in its own time and place, so do we. The garden of life is vibrant because of its variety, not its uniformity.
If we think about flowers for a moment: some stretch tall toward the sun, like sunflowers basking boldly in the light. Others bloom quietly in the shade, like lilies of the valley, hidden yet exquisite in their own way. And then there are flowers like the rare corpse flower, which might take years—sometimes decades—before it reveals its unique bloom.
Instead of judging or comparing yourself, embrace who you are and the unique way you are growing. Your purpose isn’t to mimic another person’s path but to walk your own with authenticity. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be, and that your growth is unfolding as it should.
And remember: the same applies to others. Just as you wouldn’t expect a fish to climb a tree, don’t hold others to impossible or unfair expectations.
The world doesn’t need you to be like anyone else. It just needs you to be fully, beautifully, and unapologetically you.
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