Has your idea of what makes a good friend changed as you’ve gotten older?
Good friends are the ones who show up through a time of crisis. A dark season of life.
I have friends who I can go weeks and months without speaking to but if something went down, they would be there. No doubt in my mind.
But that’s the true test isn’t it ?……when you experience something scary or hard in life pay attention to who reached out, who checked on you, who genuinely cared. Thats only if you put that information out there. You can’t be upset someone didn’t reach out if they didn’t even know you were going through something to begin with.
I have friends too where we are just social friends. We have fun together. But truly, I know who my real tribe is because they have always been there for me and there is some peace of mind knowing you have people in your life that you can count on if need be.
Be one of those friends too. Just the other day I had a thought….I’m like a 911 friend. I’m not always going to reach out and see how things are, I’m busy too. However if you call me asking for help I’ll be there for you one hundred percent.
There’s a lot of people out there who expect 911 to call them if you know what I mean. But that’s just not how that works. If you need help, you have to ask.
And to me good friends are the ones you trust enough to ask and share. You feel safe and not judged with them. You also know they will absolutely be there for you if you needed them.
Those are the best friends.
