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Even Pricks Can Bloom

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Living in Arizona, it’s impossible to ignore the cacti. Covered in spines, they seem like nature’s way of saying, “Keep your distance.” One wrong step or touch, and you’re left with a sharp reminder of their defenses.

But then spring arrives, and something remarkable happens. These same prickly plants burst into bloom, producing flowers so vibrant and delicate they draw hummingbirds and bees. The transformation is stunning, but fleeting—many blooms last only a short time. Their beauty, though brief, reminds us to savor life’s unexpected moments.

As I admired these cactus flowers one day, a humorous thought popped into my mind: “Even a prick can bloom.”

It’s funny, but also deeply true. Some people, like cacti, can be harsh and sharp. They may come across as difficult or unkind, seemingly existing only to push others away. But just like the cactus in winter, these people might be in a season where their beauty and potential aren’t visible yet.

In life, we often encounter “pricks.” They might frustrate or hurt us, but if we look closer—or simply wait—we might see a different side to them. People, like cacti, have their seasons. Winter is a time of dormancy, where growth happens beneath the surface. Spring, however, is when that growth bursts forth, revealing something beautiful.

The lesson? Try not to judge someone solely by the season you meet them in. The person who seems harsh today might surprise you with their ability to bloom when the time is right.

A cactus doesn’t bloom all year, and neither do we. But when the right season comes, even the most prickly among us can grow into something beautiful. So the next time you encounter someone sharp or difficult, remind yourself of this:

Even pricks can bloom.

Be Vulnerable And Let Love In

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There is a lot less pain when we keep ourselves reserved. But when we close ourselves off, we also miss out on the immense beauty of love. Love is always a risk, and while it can bring heartache, I promise you—it’s worth it. Embracing love is not something you will ever regret.

Still, we cannot ignore the truth about love: when it’s lost, it lingers.

Losing love is like reaching the most gripping part of a story, only to turn the page and find it blank. The rest of the book is empty—full of unanswered questions, leaving you with a longing for what could have been.

“’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,” Alfred Lord Tennyson once said. And he was right. Love leaves its mark, even in its absence. It shapes us, teaching us to feel deeply, to grow, and to carry its lessons forward.

Love is universal—it binds us together. It’s something we all seek and something we all grieve when it’s gone. But the loss of love should never overshadow the joy of experiencing it.

Yes, love makes us vulnerable, but it also opens doors to the most profound parts of being human. To love deeply is to live fully. Even in its risks and heartaches, love teaches us who we are.

So let love in. Be vulnerable. It’s the bravest thing you can do—and the most rewarding.

“To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven’t lived a life at all.”

Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

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Albert Einstein once said, “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” How often do we judge ourselves—or others—by the wrong standards?

How often do we believe we should climb a tree when we’re meant to swim?

See yourself for who you truly are. Explore the journey of self-discovery. How else do we grow?

The truth is, each of us is our own. You can’t compare your growth to someone else’s. You are not meant to be them, and they are not meant to be you. Some people thrive in the spotlight, sharing their lives boldly for all to see, while others find their strength in private moments, nurturing their growth quietly. Neither is wrong. Both are necessary.

It’s easy to get caught up in the comparison game, measuring ourselves against someone else’s timeline, achievements, or personality. But just as every flower blooms in its own time and place, so do we. The garden of life is vibrant because of its variety, not its uniformity.

If we think about flowers for a moment: some stretch tall toward the sun, like sunflowers basking boldly in the light. Others bloom quietly in the shade, like lilies of the valley, hidden yet exquisite in their own way. And then there are flowers like the rare corpse flower, which might take years—sometimes decades—before it reveals its unique bloom.

Instead of judging or comparing yourself, embrace who you are and the unique way you are growing. Your purpose isn’t to mimic another person’s path but to walk your own with authenticity. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be, and that your growth is unfolding as it should.

And remember: the same applies to others. Just as you wouldn’t expect a fish to climb a tree, don’t hold others to impossible or unfair expectations.

The world doesn’t need you to be like anyone else. It just needs you to be fully, beautifully, and unapologetically you.

The Freedom Of Forgiveness

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Whatever is holding you back—whatever skeleton hides in your closet, guilty moment haunts you, or mistake chains you down—it’s time to let it go and forgive yourself. Whether it’s from 20 years ago, 5 years ago, or even just last week, release it. You are evolving every single day.

A butterfly doesn’t regret its mistakes as a caterpillar. It doesn’t dwell on what it could have done differently. Instead, it embraces its transformation and spreads its wings. The past no longer matters—it’s the now that counts. You’re not the same person you were then, so forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up and move forward. Imperfection is part of being human, and mistakes are often our greatest teachers. Be thankful for those lessons, because they shape who you are today.

One of the biggest reasons you suffer is because you haven’t yet forgiven. You’re anchored to your past, and it’s time to cut the rope. The past cannot change, but you can. Take the pain you’ve carried for so long and turn it into something meaningful. Learn from it. Use it to grow. When you let go, you’re not just setting others free—you’re setting yourself free.

Forgiving yourself also opens the door to rekindling relationships, both with yourself and others. Nobody is perfect. What even is perfection? We can’t expect forgiveness from others if we’re not willing to forgive ourselves. Embrace where you are now. You’ve come so far, and you’re still growing.

Try this: Write down what you need to forgive yourself for. Acknowledge the lessons it taught you, then let it go. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself or someone else, even if you never send it. Let those burdens leave your heart and make room for love and gratitude.

You are a miracle in progress. The past doesn’t define you; your actions now do. So step into the person you’re becoming—a person who forgives, grows, and shines brighter each day.

Skip The Short Cut, Take The Long Drive

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You notice with age we seem to always be in a rush. And for what? Why are us grown-ups always rushing? It’s like we think something catastrophic will happen if we’re “not on time.” We’re so consumed with getting to the next thing that we barely savor where we are.

For a while, I kept catching myself saying, “real fast.”

“Let me do the dishes real fast.”

“I gotta go to the bathroom real fast.”

“Let me make this call real fast.”

“Let me eat this real fast.”

Why? Why am I rushing everything “real fast” all the time? It’s like I was stuck in a loop—accomplish one task, move to the next, repeat. We have so much to do, but are we really living while we do it?

The truth is, we lack patience. How do you truly embrace and enjoy the ending of a book, a movie, or a show if you just skipped through the whole thing? Life is the same way. It’s an experience meant to be lived fully, not hurried through. The so-called “boring parts” or long highways of life are what make the destination that much sweeter.

So take your time. Let the journey unfold naturally. It’s not about how quickly you get there; it’s about how much of the road you let yourself feel along the way.

A Lesson From Eating Donuts

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For a while, Fridays were “grocery pick-up days” in our family. And just before we’d pick up the groceries, I’d stop at a nearby donut shop and let each of my three daughters choose a donut. Usually, I’d get just enough for them, but on this “donut lesson day,” I decided to treat myself to one as well—and even got an extra for my husband.

On the drive home, my oldest finished her donut and immediately wanted more, glancing at mine hopefully. Another daughter, who had picked a new flavor, was grumbling because she didn’t like it and regretted her choice. So there we were: one daughter, longing for more, and another, frustrated with what she’d chosen.

And as I listened to them, I thought, How similar we are to children sometimes. How often do we ask for more, not even thinking about those who don’t have the luxury of choice? Or get exactly what we wanted, only to find out it’s not what we hoped? It’s like a mirror of life, where we’re constantly balancing gratitude and expectation, fulfillment and frustration. I realized teaching my children to appreciate what they have is challenging, especially when they’re so young and everything is new and full of possibility. Yet, in that moment, I saw myself in them. How many times have I behaved the same way?

And yes, I did end up sharing my donut with my daughter—because I love her. Just as we have a Creator who continues to provide for us, even when we forget to be grateful.

So maybe the donut lesson is this: life gives us chances to learn, to appreciate, and to recognize that sometimes we already have enough. Perhaps, next time we’re tempted to reach for “more,” we can pause and savor what’s already in our hands.

Every Moment Is An Opportunity

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A few years ago, our family traveled to the pines for a weekend getaway on Father’s Day with some great friends. As we drove, I saw a sign that read, “Every moment is an opportunity.” Those words resonated with me deeply and sparked some reflection. I started thinking about how much potential lies in the small moments we often overlook. How many of those little opportunities could we take advantage of each day? A moment is just a brief period of time, but we are always in one—whether it’s a big moment, a small moment, or something in between. And all of them are opportunities for growth, reflection, or connection.

Life itself is a moment, a fleeting gift. None of us will live on earth forever, and knowing that can inspire us to be fully present, to make the most of the time we have, and to view each moment as a chance to be a little kinder, a little braver, or a little more grateful.

So today, think of every moment as a door waiting to be opened. Step into each one with intention, and allow the magic of that opportunity to shape you in new and beautiful ways.

If It Brings You Joy, Share It. Chances Are Whatever It Is Will Bring Others Joy Too

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One thing I love about social media is how easy it is to share things that make us feel good. Whether it’s a beautiful place you’ve visited, a recipe that turned out perfectly, a workout that really made a difference, a picture of an adorable animal that made you smile, or a funny video that had you laughing hysterically—sharing these moments spreads the joy.

I especially pay attention to the people I know personally, like family and friends. If there’s something you’ve done or tried recently that helped you or brought you happiness, let others know! We all want to feel good and do good. So we think, “If it worked for them, maybe it can work for me too.”Awhile back, one of my friends posted a quick Snap of a trainer she follows for at-home workouts. Thanks to her, I found this trainer, tried the workouts, and was sore for days! I wouldn’t have even known about her if my friend hadn’t shared it.

You don’t have to post it on social media if that’s not your thing—text it, email it, or bring it up at your next gathering. Whatever it is that made you feel good, know that by sharing it, you could be making someone else’s day a little brighter, too.

When we share what brings us joy, we’re doing more than just passing along a tip or a laugh; we’re inviting others to feel connected and experience that same uplifting spark. Sometimes, it’s the little things we share that end up being exactly what someone else needed to lift their spirits or inspire them in a new way. So don’t hold back—if something brings you joy, let it shine! By sharing, you’re spreading a little more light in the world.

Avoid Fighting Fire With Fire

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When we choose to fight fire with fire, we both end up burnt. The depth of the burn varies, but what’s always left behind is a scar—something that doesn’t fade away. Most of the time, these scars stay unnoticed in the background. But every once in a while, they resurface—when we notice them ourselves, when someone else points them out, or when a memory brings them back. In that moment, we’re transported right back to the conflict, to the burn we thought we’d left behind.

These kinds of scars aren’t worth it. They’re the result of a choice to “get even” or “give a taste of their own medicine”—a choice to let anger fuel more anger. Every scar tells a story, but when you fight fire with fire, you may never know how deep the scar will go or what it might cost. Instead, consider letting peace, patience, or simply walking away be your response. Some battles aren’t worth the burns they leave behind.

You Can’t Please Everyone

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You’ll loose your mind trying to be for everyone. Your souls coated in honey. Some don’t like the taste of sugar and that’s fine.

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We can’t please everyone, and that’s actually one of the beautiful parts of our existence. What we’re unable to give or fill for one person, someone else can. There’s someone and something for everyone. We never need to feel alone or diminished just because we don’t meet someone else’s expectations. What one person may not appreciate, someone else will absolutely love.

This quote is a reminder to stay true to ourselves and accept that we aren’t for everyone, and that’s okay. For each person who doesn’t resonate with us, there’s someone else who will. So let’s focus our energy on being who we truly are and find peace in knowing we’re exactly enough for the ones who matter.

We can relax into being ourselves, knowing we don’t need to force connections or try to satisfy everyone. Instead, we can find our own rhythm and let others find theirs. Trust that the right people—the ones who appreciate you as you are—will naturally be drawn to your unique “honey.”