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Skip The Short Cut, Take The Long Drive

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You notice with age we seem to always be in a rush. And for what? Why are us grown-ups always rushing? It’s like we think something catastrophic will happen if we’re “not on time.” We’re so consumed with getting to the next thing that we barely savor where we are.

For a while, I kept catching myself saying, “real fast.”

“Let me do the dishes real fast.”

“I gotta go to the bathroom real fast.”

“Let me make this call real fast.”

“Let me eat this real fast.”

Why? Why am I rushing everything “real fast” all the time? It’s like I was stuck in a loop—accomplish one task, move to the next, repeat. We have so much to do, but are we really living while we do it?

The truth is, we lack patience. How do you truly embrace and enjoy the ending of a book, a movie, or a show if you just skipped through the whole thing? Life is the same way. It’s an experience meant to be lived fully, not hurried through. The so-called “boring parts” or long highways of life are what make the destination that much sweeter.

So take your time. Let the journey unfold naturally. It’s not about how quickly you get there; it’s about how much of the road you let yourself feel along the way.

Most People Are More Concerned About Themselves Than They Are About You

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In other words, stop worrying so much about what others think. Truthfully, they don’t care nearly as much as you imagine.

How often do we hold ourselves back because we’re afraid of others’ perceptions? Too often.

But here’s the thing: people are busy living their own lives. They’re caught up in their own thoughts, insecurities, and struggles. They don’t have the time or energy to analyze every little thing you do. So why let the fear of their judgment hold you back?

Try, fail, learn, and grow. That’s the cycle of life. And if you’re constantly worrying about what others might think, you’ll never move forward. You’ll stay stuck, and that fear will steal your potential.

Remember this: your life is yours to live. The opinions of others are fleeting, but the opportunities you seize—or let pass—will define your journey. Stop holding back. Trust yourself and take the leap.

Give More Compliments

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Sometimes people just need to hear something kind. And that compliment you give might influence them in ways you can’t even imagine.

My mom is the perfect example of this. She compliments everyone, everywhere we go. Whether it’s the cashier at the grocery store, a stranger in the elevator, or the waiter at a restaurant, she always finds something to acknowledge. One day I asked her, “Do you always compliment people?” and she said, “Yes, it makes them smile.” And she’s right—her words light up their faces every time.

Think about how you feel when you receive a compliment. The way it lifts your spirits or leaves a warm impression long after it’s been said. Maybe you even remember a compliment you received years ago, one that made you feel truly seen or appreciated. That’s the power of kind words—they stick with us.

We often think nice things about others but keep them to ourselves. Why not share them? Tell someone they’re doing a great job. Compliment their outfit, their smile, or their energy. Recognize the effort they put into something, even if it’s small. You never know what someone might be going through or how much your words could mean to them.

The beauty of compliments is that they cost nothing, but their value is immeasurable. So, give them freely and often. You might just make someone’s day—or even their week.

Sometimes You Gotta Get Through Your Fear To See The Beauty On The Other Side

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This quote came from the movie, The Good Dinosaur. I was watching it with my children when I heard this line from the Father Dinosaur and I just thought, how profound!

Fear can feel like a towering wall, separating us from the joy, peace, or growth that lies on the other side. It whispers that we’re not strong enough, that we’ll fail, or that the unknown isn’t worth the risk. But the truth is, fear is often the guardian of the most beautiful experiences.

Think about the times you’ve been afraid—whether it was starting something new, facing an unexpected challenge, or stepping out of your comfort zone. Once you pushed through the fear, didn’t you find something valuable on the other side? Maybe it was a lesson, a deeper sense of self, or even a breathtaking moment you would have missed if you hadn’t been brave enough to try.

Fear isn’t the enemy; it’s a signal that you’re growing, stretching, and evolving. So the next time you’re faced with something scary, remember this: the beauty on the other side is worth it. Take a deep breath, gather your courage, and keep going. You’ll be amazed at what’s waiting for you when you push through.

The Future Is Uncertain

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The truth is, nobody knows the future. Life has a way of reminding us of this through unexpected twists and turns, cultivating surreal moments that catch us off guard.

But isn’t this exactly how we’d want it? Alan Watts once suggested that if we could dream any life we wanted, we’d start by fulfilling every desire and experiencing endless pleasure. Yet eventually, we’d crave surprise and risk. Finally, we’d choose the life we’re living now—filled with uncertainty and the thrill of the unknown.

Life is uncertain, and that’s its beauty. It invites us to appreciate each day as it comes, embracing what we don’t know with open hearts. So welcome every sunrise with gratitude and grace, and trust that the uncertainty of today holds the magic of possibility.

The Heart Of The Buddha

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“The Buddha offered this wonderful image. If you take a handful of salt and pour it into a small bowl of water, the water in the bowl will be too salty to drink. But if you pour the same amount of salt into a large river, people will still be able to drink the river’s water…….because of its immensity, the river has the capacity to receive and transform. The river doesn’t suffer at all because of a handful of salt. If your heart is small, one unjust word or act will make you suffer. But if your heart is large, if you have understanding and compassion, that word or deed will not have the power to make you suffer.” – The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching by @thichnhathanhsangha

This teaching reminds us that expanding our hearts, like widening a river, can help us navigate life with greater resilience. When our hearts are small, we feel every slight, and even small challenges can overwhelm us. But as we grow in compassion and understanding, we become capable of holding much more—our hearts become like that vast river. Life will always add “salt” in the form of difficulties or unkind words, but with a heart that’s expansive and compassionate, we can absorb these moments without letting them take away our peace. So let’s strive to cultivate a heart as open and vast as a river, one that can receive, transform, and keep flowing, no matter what comes its way.

A Lesson From A Tree

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We have this tree in our front yard. Originally, it was full of branches, lush with leaves, and provided such beautiful shade. Like all trees, it has its seasons, but we especially loved it in full bloom. It attracted so many birds and added so much life to our yard.

One day, we noticed a crack forming down the middle of the tree. We knew that, in time, it would eventually split. And sure enough, after some time, it did. The tree split all the way through, and my husband carefully cleaned up the fallen half. When I went outside and looked at what was left, I felt a pang of sadness. The tree wasn’t the same—it had lost a big part of itself that day, leaving our yard a bit bare. And yet, the tree remained standing.

I mourned what the tree had lost, but I also took a moment to celebrate all the beauty and shade it had provided over the years.

As much as we’d like to prevent these “splits” from happening, we unfortunately can’t. This is life, and it comes with aches and pains. But if a tree can remain standing after a huge loss and still continue to grow, withstanding both sunshine and storms, then it’s possible that we can, too. Remember—the tree is still standing.

We are like this tree. When we lose a part of ourselves, it’s natural to mourn. But it’s also an opportunity to celebrate—to honor the strength it took to remain standing and to hold hope for new growth. The parts we’ve lost have served us well. They’ve contributed to our growth and shaped who we are, and that’s something to remember with gratitude.

Every Moment Is An Opportunity

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A few years ago, our family traveled to the pines for a weekend getaway on Father’s Day with some great friends. As we drove, I saw a sign that read, “Every moment is an opportunity.” Those words resonated with me deeply and sparked some reflection. I started thinking about how much potential lies in the small moments we often overlook. How many of those little opportunities could we take advantage of each day? A moment is just a brief period of time, but we are always in one—whether it’s a big moment, a small moment, or something in between. And all of them are opportunities for growth, reflection, or connection.

Life itself is a moment, a fleeting gift. None of us will live on earth forever, and knowing that can inspire us to be fully present, to make the most of the time we have, and to view each moment as a chance to be a little kinder, a little braver, or a little more grateful.

So today, think of every moment as a door waiting to be opened. Step into each one with intention, and allow the magic of that opportunity to shape you in new and beautiful ways.

A Good Cry Never Hurt Anyone

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Being a mother, you cry a lot. Or at least, this mother does. But you don’t have to be a parent to connect with this post—we all have those days when we’re trying our best, pushing through the challenges, reaching our breaking points, letting out a cry, dusting ourselves off, and then starting again. Life can be exhausting, and sometimes it feels like there’s no end to the cycle.

I want everyone to know that it’s OKAY to cry. Anyone who’s feeling burnt out, hurt, or frustrated…sometimes, you just need a good cry to release everything you’ve been holding inside. Each of us carries an invisible weight, and when that weight goes unrecognized, it can feel overwhelming. We all go through so much, and sometimes it feels like no one truly sees it.

Well, I SEE YOU. I know that you reading this do so much, or maybe you’ve been through a lot. I may not know all the details, but if you’re human, I know you’ve had your share of struggles. And I notice it. I want you to know that even if it feels hard, even if no one seems to understand, you’re showing up every day, and that’s incredible.

So let yourself cry if you need to—it’s a release, a reset. You’re not alone with the weight on your shoulders or the silent struggles. You’re a rockstar, and you’re stronger than you realize. Believe me.

And remember, those tears you shed are a part of the journey, softening and strengthening you all at once. They’re a sign of the love, effort, and resilience that you pour into life each day. So, let yourself feel, let yourself release, and trust that, each time you do, you’re creating space for even more strength and courage to rise within you.

If It Brings You Joy, Share It. Chances Are Whatever It Is Will Bring Others Joy Too

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One thing I love about social media is how easy it is to share things that make us feel good. Whether it’s a beautiful place you’ve visited, a recipe that turned out perfectly, a workout that really made a difference, a picture of an adorable animal that made you smile, or a funny video that had you laughing hysterically—sharing these moments spreads the joy.

I especially pay attention to the people I know personally, like family and friends. If there’s something you’ve done or tried recently that helped you or brought you happiness, let others know! We all want to feel good and do good. So we think, “If it worked for them, maybe it can work for me too.”Awhile back, one of my friends posted a quick Snap of a trainer she follows for at-home workouts. Thanks to her, I found this trainer, tried the workouts, and was sore for days! I wouldn’t have even known about her if my friend hadn’t shared it.

You don’t have to post it on social media if that’s not your thing—text it, email it, or bring it up at your next gathering. Whatever it is that made you feel good, know that by sharing it, you could be making someone else’s day a little brighter, too.

When we share what brings us joy, we’re doing more than just passing along a tip or a laugh; we’re inviting others to feel connected and experience that same uplifting spark. Sometimes, it’s the little things we share that end up being exactly what someone else needed to lift their spirits or inspire them in a new way. So don’t hold back—if something brings you joy, let it shine! By sharing, you’re spreading a little more light in the world.