The Importance of Releasing Built-Up Energy

“Thunder is good, thunder is impressive; but it is lightning that does the work.” – Mark Twain

I was sitting outside this morning, sipping coffee as a gentle rain shower passed through. Lightning flickered across the sky, thunder rumbled in the distance, and I was struck by how beautiful it all was. That simple moment sent me down a little “Google trail” of facts about thunder, lightning, and their connection with the earth. The more I read, the more amazed I felt by how deeply nature is woven together and how much of that connection we often overlook.

It reminded me of something from many years ago, when I worked at the bank. One of the first lessons they taught us about working with customers was this: you must create a connection before offering advice. That connection built trust, and with trust came a relationship.

Without it, nothing meaningful could take root.

Isn’t the same true with our Mother Earth? How important it is to slow down, notice her rhythms, and take the time to build connection. With connection comes care, and with care comes relationship.

When thunder shakes the earth, we are reminded that even the sky must let go. Storms don’t appear out of nowhere, they build from heat, pressure, and imbalance. Eventually, the energy becomes too great to hold, and nature finds its release through lightning and thunder.

This release isn’t destructive by design. It’s restorative. The rain nourishes the soil. The air cools. The atmosphere resets. Without the storm, the earth would stay tense, suffocated by pressure that has nowhere to go.

We are no different.

Each of us carries storms inside; emotions we bottle up, words we don’t say, grief we don’t grieve. Like the sky, we can only hold so much. When we refuse to release what weighs on us, it doesn’t disappear; it hides in our bodies, our thoughts, our relationships. The pressure builds until it finds a way out; sometimes in anger, sometimes in tears, sometimes in illness.

But when we allow release — a cry, a deep conversation, a prayer, a long walk, a creative expression — we restore balance. We clear space for peace, for clarity, for renewal.

Just as thunder reminds us the earth is alive and in motion, our own release reminds us we are living, feeling beings. And letting go is not weakness. It’s wisdom.

Because in both nature and life, release is what makes room for growth.

Ways to Release Built-Up Energy

Journaling – Write freely, without judgment, letting your emotions pour onto the page.

Movement – Dance, stretch, walk, or shake your body to let energy flow out physically.

Crying or Laughing – Both are natural releases the body uses to reset and heal.

Breathwork – Deep, intentional breathing can calm the nervous system and move stuck energy.

Prayer or Meditation – Offer what you’re holding onto to God/the universe, releasing it into something greater than yourself.

Creative Expression – Paint, sing, garden, or create in any form that feels like release.

Speaking It Aloud – Share your feelings with a trusted friend, partner, or even speak them in solitude — the act of voicing brings relief.


Reflection Question:

What energy are you still holding onto that is ready to be released — and how might you allow yourself a healthy “thunderstorm” so that renewal can follow?

Little Habits for a Cleaner, More Organized Home

Keeping a house clean doesn’t always mean sticking to a strict schedule. Sometimes it’s the little daily choices that make the biggest difference.

When we turn those small actions into habits, the home begins to take care of itself.

Here are some simple things you can do every day that make a huge impact:


The 2-Minute Rule – If it takes less than 2 minutes, do it right away. Wipe the counter, rinse the dish, fold the blanket.

Reset Before You Leave a Room – Before you walk out, take one thing with you that doesn’t belong there.

One In, One Out – Every time something new comes into the house, let one thing go.

Clear Surfaces at Night – Tidy the living room and wipe down counters before bed. A fresh start in the morning changes everything.

The 10-Item Pick Up – Choose any room, pick up 10 out-of-place items, and put them back. Quick, simple, effective.

Basket Trick – Keep a catch-all basket in the main living space. Toss random things in, then empty it at the end of the day.

Laundry Reset – Fold or hang clothes right when they come out of the dryer. (A small habit that prevents a big pile.)

Never Go Empty-Handed – Going upstairs? Grab what belongs there. Heading to the kitchen? Take a dish with you.

End-of-Day 5 Minutes – Spend just 5 minutes putting things back in place before bed.

Entryway Rule – Shoes, bags, coats go away the moment you walk through the door.

These little things may not seem like much on their own, but together they create a rhythm of order and peace. When the home feels lighter, so do we.

Maybe the secret isn’t in doing more, but in doing the small things consistently.

You Are You Hang Out With – Your Circle Should Inspire You, Not Drain You

“Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” – Unknown

Who we spend time with shapes how we think, speak, and act. The people closest to us leave quiet fingerprints on our soul. Their words, habits, and outlook slowly weave into our own. When someone’s anger, negativity, or chaos becomes a regular soundtrack in your life, it slowly rewires your responses. That’s not just theory , it’s practical wiring: we pick up habits, tones, and rhythms from the people around us.

This truth isn’t about cutting people off in cruelty. It’s about wisdom; a guardrail for the heart. Protecting your peace allows you to become the person you are called to be. Sometimes that means creating distance from those who stir drama, and sometimes it means setting different boundaries for your own good.

Like trees sharing roots beneath the soil, we are more connected to those around us than we realize. That’s why boundaries are an act of love; for yourself, for your family, and even for the other person. Enabling unhealthy patterns rarely helps anyone heal.

Practical Steps

• Notice whose emotional tone you carry home. Set a gentle boundary (shorter visits, later pick-ups, less sharing).

• Choose circle-keepers who model what you want to become.

• Offer compassion from a distance: pray for people you can’t be close to right now.

The Power Of Loving Yourself

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

THAT, my friends…is a powerful lesson worth learning and understanding.

Learning, choosing, wanting, to love yourself…..that right there is power.

But maybe you’re asking how? How in the world do I begin to love myself?

It’s understanding how incredibly miraculous your existence is.

To be alive…..wow a gift! If you can see that, I mean really see that……your life will begin to unfold in a whole new way.

You don’t have to prove yourself to any one.

You are enough and you always have been.

You are a piece of art that can never be duplicated.

You are magic.

Love yourself…..I wish I learned that sooner.

However….had I learned that sooner I wouldn’t have what I do now.

Life is funny like that. Trust your journey, keep moving forward.

Personality RED FLAG

What personality trait in people raises a red flag with you?

How people talk about others and to others. I pay attention to that. Ultimately it’s really about respect.

I don’t like when people center a conversation around bashing another individual. That never has really sat well with me.

And how people talk to others……name calling, passive aggressive remarks…….some can argue that that is just their sense of humor but it’s something I have learned I don’t want to be around.

I had a friend in the past who was actually pretty mean. She would make comments and follow it by a laugh so it wasn’t taken too seriously, or she would make fun of the other friends I would hang out with.

I cut her off because I had reached my limit and I legitimately told her I cannot be your friend anymore.

And when I meet people or make new friends or whatever this is something I recognize through conversation and already know it’s not for me.

Another red flag since we’re discussing it is those who are very tunnel visioned. What I mean by that is their reality is very black and white. There is no space to even try to see the other side.

I love open minded people, people who can really have in depth conversation, friends who can humble you and vice versa.

I prefer a personality that’s interested in growing and challenging oneself, not a person thats only interest is in belittling others.

Ps – one more thing that is a “red flag” – negativity. I can’t be around that. If you are constantly negative, I can’t be around that and I don’t want to be around it.

What My Ideal Home FEELS Like

What does your ideal home look like?

Let’s change the look to feel.

There’s a difference.

I’m more focused on what my home feels like than its overall appearance.

My home is comfort, safe, loving, where people can come over and feel at ease.

The energy that my home carries is very important to me.

I do strive to make it a place of love where that’s felt consciously and unconsciously.

What that looks like is…..somewhat of a minimalist design. No room is overcrowded.

I have visible green plants that are noticed once you walk in……natural light….the kitchen window is usually cracked….photos of places we love to be, art, a few crafts on display from my kids.

Earthy tones and colors. A few real life “flaws” (chipped paint, toys laying around, markers and crayons scattered currently on the table I’m writing at).

When friends visit I like playing soft music in the background. Usually jazz type. I may light one candle too.

Like I mentioned previously…..my home vibe is so important to me. This is the home that homes my children. And the home that welcomes my guests.

Whenever we go on a trip I always put my hand on the wall and tell our home to be good, enjoy the peace and quiet for a little bit and that I love it.

Then I kiss the wall.

I love our home and I believe others can feel that love when they walk in.

Life Feels HEAVY

How are you feeling right now?

Heavy actually. I feel heavy.

My mom is currently taking care of her dying mom and that has taken a complete toll on her. It’s very difficult for her to witness her mom deteriorate and her family is being nothing but a bunch of bullies. It makes me so mad and sad for her.

My sister in law (my two kids birth mother) is currently having a manic episode and in the mental hospital. She’s been calling my husband leaving the most obscene voicemails. It’s incredibly triggering. How badly I want to just go off on her but obviously I can’t.

The world just is sad. Propaganda is everywhere and many can’t see it. Its frustrating. So much separation, so many labels, people intentionally provoking and for what? Humanity is something else. Super cliche but where is the love????

TMI – but I’m also in the phase before “my moon water” in other words — my period. Completely taboo to talk about women bleeding every month bit WE DO. And so currently my emotions are high, I’m very in touch with others and as I mentioned…..it’s just heavy.

If you made it this far, I appreciate it.

My blog is typically very positive, thought provoking, and encouraging.

However today I’m going to be honest with what’s going on today. And yesterday I was taking a shower and I was thinking how badly I want to be petty sometimes. Being the “bigger person” sometimes is annoying. I want to be petty and childish and just go off!!

But truth be told, it’s just not worth my energy or time and I know.

That felt great lol.