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Time to Break the Spells That Have Been Placed on You

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You are your own worst critic, but it’s time to break the spells that others have placed on you—the ones that make you doubt your worth or silence your voice.

Let me remind you: you are beautiful.

Your soul radiates with beauty and light. You have the power to do incredible things. Don’t give up on yourself, because you are capable, you are loved, and you make a difference every single day.

Too often, we let insecurities hold us hostage, convincing us to shrink and hide our true selves. But here’s the truth: every single one of us is unique, brimming with gifts that are meant to be shared. The world is waiting for your gifts, for your voice, for your authenticity.

When you start to see yourself as the miracle you are—and yes, you are a miracle—you’ll begin to recognize the beauty that already lives inside you. You’ll stop comparing yourself to others because nobody can be you, and nobody ever will.

So, embrace the life you’ve been given. Release the doubts, silence the negative voices, and step into the incredible person you are meant to be. The world needs you.

Skip The Short Cut, Take The Long Drive

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You notice with age we seem to always be in a rush. And for what? Why are us grown-ups always rushing? It’s like we think something catastrophic will happen if we’re “not on time.” We’re so consumed with getting to the next thing that we barely savor where we are.

For a while, I kept catching myself saying, “real fast.”

“Let me do the dishes real fast.”

“I gotta go to the bathroom real fast.”

“Let me make this call real fast.”

“Let me eat this real fast.”

Why? Why am I rushing everything “real fast” all the time? It’s like I was stuck in a loop—accomplish one task, move to the next, repeat. We have so much to do, but are we really living while we do it?

The truth is, we lack patience. How do you truly embrace and enjoy the ending of a book, a movie, or a show if you just skipped through the whole thing? Life is the same way. It’s an experience meant to be lived fully, not hurried through. The so-called “boring parts” or long highways of life are what make the destination that much sweeter.

So take your time. Let the journey unfold naturally. It’s not about how quickly you get there; it’s about how much of the road you let yourself feel along the way.

Most People Are More Concerned About Themselves Than They Are About You

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In other words, stop worrying so much about what others think. Truthfully, they don’t care nearly as much as you imagine.

How often do we hold ourselves back because we’re afraid of others’ perceptions? Too often.

But here’s the thing: people are busy living their own lives. They’re caught up in their own thoughts, insecurities, and struggles. They don’t have the time or energy to analyze every little thing you do. So why let the fear of their judgment hold you back?

Try, fail, learn, and grow. That’s the cycle of life. And if you’re constantly worrying about what others might think, you’ll never move forward. You’ll stay stuck, and that fear will steal your potential.

Remember this: your life is yours to live. The opinions of others are fleeting, but the opportunities you seize—or let pass—will define your journey. Stop holding back. Trust yourself and take the leap.

Are You Angry?

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“Anger is like a child—you don’t want to let them drive the car, but you also don’t want to stuff them in the trunk.”

Anger can feel overwhelming, but with the right tools, we can learn to manage it with grace:

• Breathe. Stop and take a deep breath. This creates space between you and your reaction.

• Name it. Acknowledge your feelings: “I feel angry.” “I feel tension.” Naming emotions helps diminish their intensity.

• Do it differently. Try shifting your perspective. Say, “I’m hurting. How can I be kinder to myself and those around me?”

• Inquire. Anger often carries a message. With curiosity, ask yourself, “What is my anger trying to tell me? What action do I need to take? What am I avoiding or unwilling to face?”

This practice has been a lesson for me, especially as a parent. I’ve been guilty of brushing off my children’s feelings, saying things like, “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “Why are you so upset?” But I’ve realized these moments are opportunities—to help me better understand not only my children but also myself.

Dear anger, you’re not as crazy as I thought—you’re just trying to help me see something I’ve been missing.

Give More Compliments

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Sometimes people just need to hear something kind. And that compliment you give might influence them in ways you can’t even imagine.

My mom is the perfect example of this. She compliments everyone, everywhere we go. Whether it’s the cashier at the grocery store, a stranger in the elevator, or the waiter at a restaurant, she always finds something to acknowledge. One day I asked her, “Do you always compliment people?” and she said, “Yes, it makes them smile.” And she’s right—her words light up their faces every time.

Think about how you feel when you receive a compliment. The way it lifts your spirits or leaves a warm impression long after it’s been said. Maybe you even remember a compliment you received years ago, one that made you feel truly seen or appreciated. That’s the power of kind words—they stick with us.

We often think nice things about others but keep them to ourselves. Why not share them? Tell someone they’re doing a great job. Compliment their outfit, their smile, or their energy. Recognize the effort they put into something, even if it’s small. You never know what someone might be going through or how much your words could mean to them.

The beauty of compliments is that they cost nothing, but their value is immeasurable. So, give them freely and often. You might just make someone’s day—or even their week.

Sometimes You Gotta Get Through Your Fear To See The Beauty On The Other Side

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This quote came from the movie, The Good Dinosaur. I was watching it with my children when I heard this line from the Father Dinosaur and I just thought, how profound!

Fear can feel like a towering wall, separating us from the joy, peace, or growth that lies on the other side. It whispers that we’re not strong enough, that we’ll fail, or that the unknown isn’t worth the risk. But the truth is, fear is often the guardian of the most beautiful experiences.

Think about the times you’ve been afraid—whether it was starting something new, facing an unexpected challenge, or stepping out of your comfort zone. Once you pushed through the fear, didn’t you find something valuable on the other side? Maybe it was a lesson, a deeper sense of self, or even a breathtaking moment you would have missed if you hadn’t been brave enough to try.

Fear isn’t the enemy; it’s a signal that you’re growing, stretching, and evolving. So the next time you’re faced with something scary, remember this: the beauty on the other side is worth it. Take a deep breath, gather your courage, and keep going. You’ll be amazed at what’s waiting for you when you push through.

The Future Is Uncertain

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The truth is, nobody knows the future. Life has a way of reminding us of this through unexpected twists and turns, cultivating surreal moments that catch us off guard.

But isn’t this exactly how we’d want it? Alan Watts once suggested that if we could dream any life we wanted, we’d start by fulfilling every desire and experiencing endless pleasure. Yet eventually, we’d crave surprise and risk. Finally, we’d choose the life we’re living now—filled with uncertainty and the thrill of the unknown.

Life is uncertain, and that’s its beauty. It invites us to appreciate each day as it comes, embracing what we don’t know with open hearts. So welcome every sunrise with gratitude and grace, and trust that the uncertainty of today holds the magic of possibility.

You Have To Work Hard For The Things You Want

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This sounds like common sense, doesn’t it? We want things. We want so much. We want success, growth, purpose, and to make a difference. But many of us don’t want to put in the work. Or, we give up because we lack discipline and patience. The struggle is real, especially when we don’t see results right away.

Consistency is key. It’s vital to remind yourself why you’re doing what you’re doing. Knowing your “why” provides the fuel and motivation to push through challenges. It anchors you when the process feels long or the results seem far off. The truth is, the struggles can be hard and discouraging. But remember: hard work produces great fruit.

The greatest things in life are worked for, not handed to us. When we invest our time, energy, and dedication, we cultivate something truly meaningful—something we can fully appreciate because we’ve earned it. So, whatever it is you’re working toward, don’t give up. Stay the course. The effort is not just about achieving the end goal; it’s about becoming the person who can rise to the challenge, again and again.

A Lesson From Eating Donuts

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For a while, Fridays were “grocery pick-up days” in our family. And just before we’d pick up the groceries, I’d stop at a nearby donut shop and let each of my three daughters choose a donut. Usually, I’d get just enough for them, but on this “donut lesson day,” I decided to treat myself to one as well—and even got an extra for my husband.

On the drive home, my oldest finished her donut and immediately wanted more, glancing at mine hopefully. Another daughter, who had picked a new flavor, was grumbling because she didn’t like it and regretted her choice. So there we were: one daughter, longing for more, and another, frustrated with what she’d chosen.

And as I listened to them, I thought, How similar we are to children sometimes. How often do we ask for more, not even thinking about those who don’t have the luxury of choice? Or get exactly what we wanted, only to find out it’s not what we hoped? It’s like a mirror of life, where we’re constantly balancing gratitude and expectation, fulfillment and frustration. I realized teaching my children to appreciate what they have is challenging, especially when they’re so young and everything is new and full of possibility. Yet, in that moment, I saw myself in them. How many times have I behaved the same way?

And yes, I did end up sharing my donut with my daughter—because I love her. Just as we have a Creator who continues to provide for us, even when we forget to be grateful.

So maybe the donut lesson is this: life gives us chances to learn, to appreciate, and to recognize that sometimes we already have enough. Perhaps, next time we’re tempted to reach for “more,” we can pause and savor what’s already in our hands.

The Heart Of The Buddha

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“The Buddha offered this wonderful image. If you take a handful of salt and pour it into a small bowl of water, the water in the bowl will be too salty to drink. But if you pour the same amount of salt into a large river, people will still be able to drink the river’s water…….because of its immensity, the river has the capacity to receive and transform. The river doesn’t suffer at all because of a handful of salt. If your heart is small, one unjust word or act will make you suffer. But if your heart is large, if you have understanding and compassion, that word or deed will not have the power to make you suffer.” – The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching by @thichnhathanhsangha

This teaching reminds us that expanding our hearts, like widening a river, can help us navigate life with greater resilience. When our hearts are small, we feel every slight, and even small challenges can overwhelm us. But as we grow in compassion and understanding, we become capable of holding much more—our hearts become like that vast river. Life will always add “salt” in the form of difficulties or unkind words, but with a heart that’s expansive and compassionate, we can absorb these moments without letting them take away our peace. So let’s strive to cultivate a heart as open and vast as a river, one that can receive, transform, and keep flowing, no matter what comes its way.