Author: The Wild Gems

We are all like precious stones. We all come in different shapes and sizes. It is when we are cut and polished that we begin to live a more radiant life.
The Wild Gems hopes to inspire you to live life to the fullest and to enjoy every moment!

I Was First Going To Say The Beach But Everyone Is Saying That

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Beach or mountains? Which do you prefer? Why?

The Mountains.

The stars are different in the mountains, especially when you’re surrounded by towering pine trees.

It feels like you’re gazing at the stars through a magnifying glass—brighter, closer, and more alive. They mesmerize you, reminding you of what it feels like to be small in the vastness of it all.

The mystery of life feels more profound in the mountains.

The beach might be a getaway, but the mountains? They’re for growth and personal discovery.

Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy

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Albert Einstein once said, “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” How often do we judge ourselves—or others—by the wrong standards?

How often do we believe we should climb a tree when we’re meant to swim?

See yourself for who you truly are. Explore the journey of self-discovery. How else do we grow?

The truth is, each of us is our own. You can’t compare your growth to someone else’s. You are not meant to be them, and they are not meant to be you. Some people thrive in the spotlight, sharing their lives boldly for all to see, while others find their strength in private moments, nurturing their growth quietly. Neither is wrong. Both are necessary.

It’s easy to get caught up in the comparison game, measuring ourselves against someone else’s timeline, achievements, or personality. But just as every flower blooms in its own time and place, so do we. The garden of life is vibrant because of its variety, not its uniformity.

If we think about flowers for a moment: some stretch tall toward the sun, like sunflowers basking boldly in the light. Others bloom quietly in the shade, like lilies of the valley, hidden yet exquisite in their own way. And then there are flowers like the rare corpse flower, which might take years—sometimes decades—before it reveals its unique bloom.

Instead of judging or comparing yourself, embrace who you are and the unique way you are growing. Your purpose isn’t to mimic another person’s path but to walk your own with authenticity. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be, and that your growth is unfolding as it should.

And remember: the same applies to others. Just as you wouldn’t expect a fish to climb a tree, don’t hold others to impossible or unfair expectations.

The world doesn’t need you to be like anyone else. It just needs you to be fully, beautifully, and unapologetically you.

The Freedom Of Forgiveness

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Whatever is holding you back—whatever skeleton hides in your closet, guilty moment haunts you, or mistake chains you down—it’s time to let it go and forgive yourself. Whether it’s from 20 years ago, 5 years ago, or even just last week, release it. You are evolving every single day.

A butterfly doesn’t regret its mistakes as a caterpillar. It doesn’t dwell on what it could have done differently. Instead, it embraces its transformation and spreads its wings. The past no longer matters—it’s the now that counts. You’re not the same person you were then, so forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up and move forward. Imperfection is part of being human, and mistakes are often our greatest teachers. Be thankful for those lessons, because they shape who you are today.

One of the biggest reasons you suffer is because you haven’t yet forgiven. You’re anchored to your past, and it’s time to cut the rope. The past cannot change, but you can. Take the pain you’ve carried for so long and turn it into something meaningful. Learn from it. Use it to grow. When you let go, you’re not just setting others free—you’re setting yourself free.

Forgiving yourself also opens the door to rekindling relationships, both with yourself and others. Nobody is perfect. What even is perfection? We can’t expect forgiveness from others if we’re not willing to forgive ourselves. Embrace where you are now. You’ve come so far, and you’re still growing.

Try this: Write down what you need to forgive yourself for. Acknowledge the lessons it taught you, then let it go. Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself or someone else, even if you never send it. Let those burdens leave your heart and make room for love and gratitude.

You are a miracle in progress. The past doesn’t define you; your actions now do. So step into the person you’re becoming—a person who forgives, grows, and shines brighter each day.

The Map and the Compass: A Journey of the Heart

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When was the last time you admired a map—a tangible one? People don’t really use them anymore. We all rely on GPS. But if you have a physical map in your hands right now, you might feel a little overwhelmed.

Maps are wonderful tools, especially if you know where you’re going or what you want to find. But if you’re holding a map without a destination in mind, it can feel confusing, overwhelming, even useless. You might think, What’s the point of even having this map?

When you’re feeling lost, though, you pull out the compass. The compass doesn’t overwhelm you with details—it simply points you in the right direction. It guides you toward where you need to go.

To me, spiritual practices, traditions, and teachings are like maps. They can be rich with guidance and knowledge, and when you know where you’re going, they’re incredibly helpful. But if you’re unsure of your destination or disconnected from your inner truth, even these maps can leave you feeling lost, frustrated, or stuck.

The compass, though—that’s your heart. Just as a compass directs you toward your path, your heart provides the internal guidance you need. When you follow your heart, it always leads you to where you’re meant to be. Once you begin using the compass within, the maps of spiritual teachings—no matter their origin—start to make more sense. They show you landmarks to notice, lessons to embrace, and beauty to recognize along your journey.

Without your inner compass, you risk wandering aimlessly, hoping the map alone will solve everything. But when you tune into your heart, every map you encounter becomes a tool for growth. You start to see that all maps, in their own way, can teach you something valuable.

Maps no longer feel useless or overwhelming. They become companions on your journey, and you find gratitude for the paths they reveal.

Because the truth is, the compass and the map aren’t in competition—they’re partners. The compass gives you direction, and the map provides context. The heart points you toward your truth, and the wisdom from spiritual practices offers insights along the way. Together, they create a journey that’s both meaningful and uniquely yours.

So, next time you feel lost, remember to check in with your compass—your heart. It will guide you, and the maps you follow will become clearer and more meaningful.

Reading Is Power

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“Powerful writings are burned like a brand into the collective consciousness of a culture, even if very few people take the time to read those writings.” – Burke Hedges

Reading is transformative. It has been said, “reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body,” and I couldn’t agree more. There’s something magical about seeing someone engrossed in a book or having a conversation with someone who loves to read.

Books have shaped me in countless ways, and I often wonder who I would be without them. I’m endlessly grateful for the courage of writers who share their stories, perspectives, journeys, imaginations, and philosophies with the world. Through their words, we gain insight into the beauty and complexity of being human.

What strikes me most about reading is how it bridges our differences. While we all have unique experiences, books reveal how deeply connected we are. They remind us that, at our core, we share the same struggles, joys, and desires. Reading doesn’t just expand our knowledge—it strengthens our empathy and helps us see ourselves in one another.

So, pick up a book. Let it challenge you, inspire you, or simply comfort you. Reading is more than a pastime; it’s a gateway to understanding and connection.

Time to Break the Spells That Have Been Placed on You

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You are your own worst critic, but it’s time to break the spells that others have placed on you—the ones that make you doubt your worth or silence your voice.

Let me remind you: you are beautiful.

Your soul radiates with beauty and light. You have the power to do incredible things. Don’t give up on yourself, because you are capable, you are loved, and you make a difference every single day.

Too often, we let insecurities hold us hostage, convincing us to shrink and hide our true selves. But here’s the truth: every single one of us is unique, brimming with gifts that are meant to be shared. The world is waiting for your gifts, for your voice, for your authenticity.

When you start to see yourself as the miracle you are—and yes, you are a miracle—you’ll begin to recognize the beauty that already lives inside you. You’ll stop comparing yourself to others because nobody can be you, and nobody ever will.

So, embrace the life you’ve been given. Release the doubts, silence the negative voices, and step into the incredible person you are meant to be. The world needs you.

Tell Me How To Strengthen My Instincts…..

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Do you trust your instincts?

Sometimes.

I feel too often I unfortunately second guess myself. And then I learn the hard way or whatever it is just takes longer than what it possibly could have been.

But then again, I trust myself the next time I feel that feeling.

I feel like our instincts are becoming harder to understand and recognize because of all the stimulations and distractions.

It’s becoming more noisy and chaotic—this world we live. We’re loosing touch of these gifts.

Our instincts aren’t quick enough for us.

We begin to rely on other resources, than the actual gift of instincts that each of us humans possess.

The question should be,

How do we strengthen our instincts?

Skip The Short Cut, Take The Long Drive

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You notice with age we seem to always be in a rush. And for what? Why are us grown-ups always rushing? It’s like we think something catastrophic will happen if we’re “not on time.” We’re so consumed with getting to the next thing that we barely savor where we are.

For a while, I kept catching myself saying, “real fast.”

“Let me do the dishes real fast.”

“I gotta go to the bathroom real fast.”

“Let me make this call real fast.”

“Let me eat this real fast.”

Why? Why am I rushing everything “real fast” all the time? It’s like I was stuck in a loop—accomplish one task, move to the next, repeat. We have so much to do, but are we really living while we do it?

The truth is, we lack patience. How do you truly embrace and enjoy the ending of a book, a movie, or a show if you just skipped through the whole thing? Life is the same way. It’s an experience meant to be lived fully, not hurried through. The so-called “boring parts” or long highways of life are what make the destination that much sweeter.

So take your time. Let the journey unfold naturally. It’s not about how quickly you get there; it’s about how much of the road you let yourself feel along the way.

Most People Are More Concerned About Themselves Than They Are About You

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In other words, stop worrying so much about what others think. Truthfully, they don’t care nearly as much as you imagine.

How often do we hold ourselves back because we’re afraid of others’ perceptions? Too often.

But here’s the thing: people are busy living their own lives. They’re caught up in their own thoughts, insecurities, and struggles. They don’t have the time or energy to analyze every little thing you do. So why let the fear of their judgment hold you back?

Try, fail, learn, and grow. That’s the cycle of life. And if you’re constantly worrying about what others might think, you’ll never move forward. You’ll stay stuck, and that fear will steal your potential.

Remember this: your life is yours to live. The opinions of others are fleeting, but the opportunities you seize—or let pass—will define your journey. Stop holding back. Trust yourself and take the leap.

Are You Angry?

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“Anger is like a child—you don’t want to let them drive the car, but you also don’t want to stuff them in the trunk.”

Anger can feel overwhelming, but with the right tools, we can learn to manage it with grace:

• Breathe. Stop and take a deep breath. This creates space between you and your reaction.

• Name it. Acknowledge your feelings: “I feel angry.” “I feel tension.” Naming emotions helps diminish their intensity.

• Do it differently. Try shifting your perspective. Say, “I’m hurting. How can I be kinder to myself and those around me?”

• Inquire. Anger often carries a message. With curiosity, ask yourself, “What is my anger trying to tell me? What action do I need to take? What am I avoiding or unwilling to face?”

This practice has been a lesson for me, especially as a parent. I’ve been guilty of brushing off my children’s feelings, saying things like, “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “Why are you so upset?” But I’ve realized these moments are opportunities—to help me better understand not only my children but also myself.

Dear anger, you’re not as crazy as I thought—you’re just trying to help me see something I’ve been missing.