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Unpeeling the Layers: Beginning Shadow Work

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung

We all have parts of ourselves that we hide — not because they’re bad, but because somewhere along the way, we were taught they shouldn’t exist, or we felt embarrassed or shame.

The truth is, your “shadow” isn’t evil. It’s simply the unseen — the pieces of you that crave your love and understanding.

A huge part of my very own shadow work has been working through the trauma of being adopted. Emotions and feelings that I battled internally by myself.

Healing takes time; remember that.

What Is Shadow Work?

Shadow work is the practice of bringing light to those unseen parts.

It’s about facing your fears, triggers, insecurities, and buried emotions with honesty and compassion.

When you do, something incredible happens:

what once controlled you from the dark begins to heal in the light.

Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about remembering yourself. It’s about making the connections.

How to Begin Shadow Work

1. Create a safe space

Find a quiet place where you can be fully honest. Light a candle, journal, or simply sit in reflection. Shadow work requires gentleness and patience — you’re opening emotional layers that have been closed for a reason.

2. Observe your triggers

Notice what upsets, annoys, or frustrates you in others.

These moments are mirrors — reflections of something within you asking to be seen. Instead of judging the feeling, get curious about it.

3. Meet your emotions without judgment

When anger, jealousy, or sadness arises, don’t push it away. Ask it what it’s trying to show you. Often, our strongest emotions lead directly to our deepest wounds.

4. Journal through the layers

Writing can help you uncover truths you didn’t know you were hiding. Be honest, messy, and real — no one ever has to read it.

Shadow Work Prompts to Begin

• What emotion do I avoid feeling the most, and why?

• What do I criticize most in others that might live within me too?

• What parts of myself do I struggle to accept or show to the world?

• When do I feel unworthy, and where did that belief begin?

• What am I still holding resentment about, and what lesson might be hidden inside it?

• What situations make me feel small, and who taught me that shrinking was safer?

• What am I afraid people would think if they truly knew me?

• What does my inner child need from me right now?

• In what ways do I self-sabotage when things start going well?

• If my pain could speak, what would it say?

Remember: You Are the Light and the Shadow

Shadow work isn’t about becoming “perfect.” It’s about wholeness — learning to hold both the light and the dark with love. Yin and yang.

Each layer you peel back reveals more truth, more compassion, more freedom.

Healing begins the moment you stop running from yourself and start listening.

The Real Reason We Don’t Have World Peace (And How We Can Find It Within)

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“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

We talk about world peace as if it’s something out there — a dream we keep chasing but can’t quite reach. Yet maybe the reason we can’t find peace in the world is because we haven’t yet found it within ourselves.

Government shutdowns, wars, and constant divisions are only mirrors of a deeper human truth: we are disconnected. From each other. From nature. From the still voice inside us that remembers what really matters.

The Surface of Conflict

On the surface, countries fight over land, money, and power. Politicians argue over who’s right. But beneath it all lies the same root cause: fear.

Fear of losing control. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being heard.

When fear leads, compassion fades. And when compassion fades, peace cannot survive.

The Inner War

The world is simply a reflection of the collective inner world of its people.

So many of us carry anger, guilt, resentment, or unhealed wounds — and those emotions ripple outward. We argue, we judge, we close our hearts. It’s no wonder nations do the same.

The truth is, world peace begins with inner peace.

When you choose to forgive someone instead of holding onto pain… when you pause before reacting in anger… when you take a breath instead of shouting back — you shift the frequency of the world around you.

That’s not just poetic. It’s energetic law.

The Forgotten Connection

We’ve been taught to see differences instead of similarities — race, religion, gender, politics. But beyond those layers, we are made of the same dust, the same breath, the same light.

When you look into someone’s eyes and see yourself reflected there, peace is already happening.

We forget that we are not separate waves crashing against each other — we are the same ocean, simply moving in different forms.

The Hope That Still Lives

World peace might never come from a treaty or a politician’s promise.

It might come from something much quieter — the mother teaching her children to be kind, the friend who listens without judgment, the stranger who offers a smile when you need it most.

Every small act of love is a piece of peace.

And when enough of us find peace inside ourselves, the world will no longer have a choice but to reflect it back.

Don’t Underestimate the Power of a Well-Timed Break

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In a world that glorifies hustle and productivity, taking a break can feel like a luxury—maybe even a weakness. But the truth is, rest is not just a pause from progress; it’s an essential part of it. Just like the seasons, we’re not meant to be in constant motion. Even nature understands the importance of stillness.

Take trees, for example. In the winter, they appear lifeless—bare branches standing still against the cold. But beneath the surface, something remarkable is happening. Their roots stretch deeper, gathering strength. Their energy is reserved, stored, and redirected for future growth. The dormancy of winter isn’t stagnation; it’s preparation. And when spring arrives, they bloom with renewed vitality.

We could learn a lot from the trees.

We push ourselves to keep going, believing that if we stop, we’ll fall behind. We ignore exhaustion, replace rest with caffeine, and convince ourselves that burnout is just part of the process. But when we refuse to pause, we rob ourselves of the restoration we need to thrive.

A well-timed break isn’t laziness—it’s strategy. It allows the mind to reset, the body to recover, and the soul to breathe. It’s in those moments of stillness that clarity emerges, creativity reignites, and energy returns.

So, don’t underestimate the power of stepping back. Take the nap. Close the laptop. Step outside. Embrace the quiet. You are not failing by resting—you are preparing. And just like the trees, when your next season of growth comes, you’ll be ready.

Invisible Hands Everywhere

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Everything has roots—everything.

Think about a tree for a moment. You see its sturdy trunk, sprawling branches, and vibrant leaves. But the roots? Hidden beneath the surface, they work tirelessly, anchoring and feeding the tree. The meals we eat every day are no different—each one has roots, invisible yet essential.

Take your next meal, for example—perhaps eggs and toast. At first glance, it’s just breakfast. But look closer. Behind that plate lies a network of effort and care. The farmers who gathered the eggs, the workers who milled the grains, the drivers who transported the ingredients, the cashiers who stocked the shelves—all of them played a role in bringing it to your table.

We often think of eating as a solitary act, but it’s anything but. Every bite connects us to countless others.

One morning, as I sat down to eat, this thought hit me. My meal, as simple as it was, had been touched by so many hands. People I’d never met had spent their time and energy to make it possible. I couldn’t help but feel grateful. The awareness of those invisible hands changed my perspective.

We live in a world where convenience often overshadows connection. Food appears so effortlessly that it’s easy to forget the work behind it. But when you take the time to see the roots—the people, the processes, the labor—it deepens your appreciation.

Every hand belongs to someone with their own struggles, joys, and dreams. Thinking about this transforms an ordinary act into a moment of connection and gratitude.

The next time you eat, pause for a moment. Consider the roots of your meal. Think about the farmers, the drivers, the stockers, and everyone in between. When you acknowledge these invisible hands, even a simple meal becomes extraordinary.

This mindfulness reminds us that we’re never truly alone. Behind every bite is a story of shared humanity, and with it, a reason to be thankful.

Everyone Has A Story

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Sometimes we believe we know a person by the way they act or live their life. We make assumptions. We examine their choices and decisions. We jump to conclusions, and we can become quick to judge.

It’s easy to see someone and decide there’s no connection to be made. But life has a way of humbling us, doesn’t it? Suddenly, we’re faced with their truth, their story, and we realize how wrong we were to think we understood them without ever really knowing them.

What connects us are our stories and experiences. But to truly connect, we must have ears of compassion. We must be willing to listen. We must want to understand.

How often do you long to be understood and seen? Everyone does.

I know that feeling deeply. Growing up as an adoptee, I never felt truly seen. I felt alone and isolated, and nobody knew it—partly because I never shared it. I had no biological family. I carried so many questions that nobody could answer, and none of this was ever discussed. For years, I bore that weight in silence.

We just never know what others hold inside.

It wasn’t until I became a mother in my mid-twenties that I began to heal and acknowledge the wounds I had carried for so long. Being a mother gave me a connection I had never felt before, and it helped me begin to see and understand myself in ways I couldn’t before.

The truth is, we’re all reflections of one another. And those reflections, if we look deeper, aren’t like staring into a mirror. They’re like reaching into the ocean. The surface may shimmer, but there is depth—depth filled with stories, struggles, and experiences waiting to be understood.

We all have a story. Take the time to listen, and you’ll be amazed at what you find.

Reading Is Power

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“Powerful writings are burned like a brand into the collective consciousness of a culture, even if very few people take the time to read those writings.” – Burke Hedges

Reading is transformative. It has been said, “reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body,” and I couldn’t agree more. There’s something magical about seeing someone engrossed in a book or having a conversation with someone who loves to read.

Books have shaped me in countless ways, and I often wonder who I would be without them. I’m endlessly grateful for the courage of writers who share their stories, perspectives, journeys, imaginations, and philosophies with the world. Through their words, we gain insight into the beauty and complexity of being human.

What strikes me most about reading is how it bridges our differences. While we all have unique experiences, books reveal how deeply connected we are. They remind us that, at our core, we share the same struggles, joys, and desires. Reading doesn’t just expand our knowledge—it strengthens our empathy and helps us see ourselves in one another.

So, pick up a book. Let it challenge you, inspire you, or simply comfort you. Reading is more than a pastime; it’s a gateway to understanding and connection.

Time to Break the Spells That Have Been Placed on You

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You are your own worst critic, but it’s time to break the spells that others have placed on you—the ones that make you doubt your worth or silence your voice.

Let me remind you: you are beautiful.

Your soul radiates with beauty and light. You have the power to do incredible things. Don’t give up on yourself, because you are capable, you are loved, and you make a difference every single day.

Too often, we let insecurities hold us hostage, convincing us to shrink and hide our true selves. But here’s the truth: every single one of us is unique, brimming with gifts that are meant to be shared. The world is waiting for your gifts, for your voice, for your authenticity.

When you start to see yourself as the miracle you are—and yes, you are a miracle—you’ll begin to recognize the beauty that already lives inside you. You’ll stop comparing yourself to others because nobody can be you, and nobody ever will.

So, embrace the life you’ve been given. Release the doubts, silence the negative voices, and step into the incredible person you are meant to be. The world needs you.

Skip The Short Cut, Take The Long Drive

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You notice with age we seem to always be in a rush. And for what? Why are us grown-ups always rushing? It’s like we think something catastrophic will happen if we’re “not on time.” We’re so consumed with getting to the next thing that we barely savor where we are.

For a while, I kept catching myself saying, “real fast.”

“Let me do the dishes real fast.”

“I gotta go to the bathroom real fast.”

“Let me make this call real fast.”

“Let me eat this real fast.”

Why? Why am I rushing everything “real fast” all the time? It’s like I was stuck in a loop—accomplish one task, move to the next, repeat. We have so much to do, but are we really living while we do it?

The truth is, we lack patience. How do you truly embrace and enjoy the ending of a book, a movie, or a show if you just skipped through the whole thing? Life is the same way. It’s an experience meant to be lived fully, not hurried through. The so-called “boring parts” or long highways of life are what make the destination that much sweeter.

So take your time. Let the journey unfold naturally. It’s not about how quickly you get there; it’s about how much of the road you let yourself feel along the way.

Give More Compliments

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Sometimes people just need to hear something kind. And that compliment you give might influence them in ways you can’t even imagine.

My mom is the perfect example of this. She compliments everyone, everywhere we go. Whether it’s the cashier at the grocery store, a stranger in the elevator, or the waiter at a restaurant, she always finds something to acknowledge. One day I asked her, “Do you always compliment people?” and she said, “Yes, it makes them smile.” And she’s right—her words light up their faces every time.

Think about how you feel when you receive a compliment. The way it lifts your spirits or leaves a warm impression long after it’s been said. Maybe you even remember a compliment you received years ago, one that made you feel truly seen or appreciated. That’s the power of kind words—they stick with us.

We often think nice things about others but keep them to ourselves. Why not share them? Tell someone they’re doing a great job. Compliment their outfit, their smile, or their energy. Recognize the effort they put into something, even if it’s small. You never know what someone might be going through or how much your words could mean to them.

The beauty of compliments is that they cost nothing, but their value is immeasurable. So, give them freely and often. You might just make someone’s day—or even their week.

Sometimes You Gotta Get Through Your Fear To See The Beauty On The Other Side

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This quote came from the movie, The Good Dinosaur. I was watching it with my children when I heard this line from the Father Dinosaur and I just thought, how profound!

Fear can feel like a towering wall, separating us from the joy, peace, or growth that lies on the other side. It whispers that we’re not strong enough, that we’ll fail, or that the unknown isn’t worth the risk. But the truth is, fear is often the guardian of the most beautiful experiences.

Think about the times you’ve been afraid—whether it was starting something new, facing an unexpected challenge, or stepping out of your comfort zone. Once you pushed through the fear, didn’t you find something valuable on the other side? Maybe it was a lesson, a deeper sense of self, or even a breathtaking moment you would have missed if you hadn’t been brave enough to try.

Fear isn’t the enemy; it’s a signal that you’re growing, stretching, and evolving. So the next time you’re faced with something scary, remember this: the beauty on the other side is worth it. Take a deep breath, gather your courage, and keep going. You’ll be amazed at what’s waiting for you when you push through.