“And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance”
Let’s define some of these words first to grasp a better idea of what this scripture may mean. A tribulation is a cause of great suffering or trouble. Perseverance is defined as “continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition.”
Back to the scripture, our pain brings out the will to not give up. It pushes us, it makes us stronger. It continues to say that our troubles are what give us hope and shape our character.
When hard things happen we must have faith. It’s the love in our hearts that persevere. May this scripture encourage you to dig deep into your pain and to find out what it has taught you. What has it made you realize? What has it made you wonder? Pray about it. Ponder it. Sometimes we have to go through a dark forest in order to see a beautiful sunrise. And when we see that sunrise we give hope to those who are still in the forest.
Believe that you will come out on top, no matter what life has and will continue to throw at you…..God is with you, always. You just have to look around.
Whatever you want in this life, I hope what I have to say can motivate or encourage you in some way.
Don’t ever stop being a dreamer.
“Set impossible goals”. I actually heard that quote on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. It was one of her greatest holiday giveaway ones.
A man had been swimming in the ocean, he did a flip, and broke his neck. Just like that, his life changed in an instant.
Life as we know is full of those kind of moments.
He was told that he may never walk again. A nurse told him something that gave him strength and determination. “Set impossible goals.”
Over time, he did learn how to walk again, he is one of the lucky few. He didn’t allow being told that he wouldn’t be able to walk again stop him or hold him back. He dreamed that impossible dream. The beautiful part of this story is he walked his wife down the aisle. And I’m willing to bet they danced too. All because he didn’t give up. All the frustration, the tears, the try after try were absolutely worth it.
(This isn’t them btw, I’m just providing a visual so you can truly try to empathize with this couple and to gain perspective. Hope it works.)
Everyone has something that they desire.What is your dream? I know you have one.
I’m willing to bet some of you reading this have never really been asked that question. Or you haven’t shared it with anyone.
I want this post to get you thinking about what you want in your life. To take a moment to identify what you seek.
When I was younger the only dream I truly desired so much was to become a mom. I’m not even kidding, that was my dream. It was a dream and it felt like a calling, I can’t really explain it. I wanted to be a mom so bad and my greatest fear was that I wouldn’t be able to have children.
When I became a mother my dream literally came true. Words cannot describe how much joy motherhood gives me. However, what’s crazy though, when I became a mom I also lost myself a bit.
Losing a bit of myself was very bizarre to me. I became something that I wanted so badly, yet, here was I not feeling completely fulfilled.
I went on a serious soul searching journey. And 3 kids later I feel the most confident, courageous, that I have ever been. And I have grown so much.
Motherhood has been the best thing to ever happen to me, because I found a different part of myself. New dreams are being born and new goals are being formed because of my first dream. My daughters inspire me. I have started dreaming ‘impossible dreams’ because of them.
I share this because I don’tever want you to feel discouraged. The feeling of reaching something but not quite feeling the way you thought you would will happen sometimes.
I saw an interview with Tom Hanks on The Today Show and he said something along the lines of, “The good things you feel from an accomplishment don’t last, and the same goes for the things that bring you down.”
I’m grateful for my dream of motherhood coming true. Greatest, hardest thing ever! This blog exist because of my girls! I have no idea where this blog will take me, but so far it’s probably helped me more then it’s helped any of you.
Trust the Timing of things. And trust your path. Each path provides some type of lesson to get you where you need to go next.
It can take time trying to figure out what you really want.
The point is, don’t give up. Keep trying, keep experiencing, keep doing! And stop being so concerned with what others think. Otherwise you’ll just become stuck and you will settle. If you only knew that just a few feet more you’d see that something greater was waiting for you.
If you’re afraid to fail in front of others, you’re going to have to suck it up. I say that in the nicest way possible.
I personally would rather keep trying new things and experiencing failure to find what really lights my spirit up, then to just settle because I’m in a content position.
You can’t be afraid of dead ends, u-turns, or any paths that lead you into a roundabout.
The pitfalls, the mistakes, the redos are going to happen and they have to happen in order for you to learn and grow and to get where you want to be.
4 THINGS TO CLOSE THIS UP
(Thanks if you read this whole thing!)
Don‘t forget the reasonwhy you’re doing what you are doing.
Write your goals down and work towards it everyday.
Stop limiting yourself, set yourself to be free and to express who you really are and who you want to become.
I think something we all think about from time to time is our purpose in life.
Not just our purpose, but we wonder how we are contributing to this world. We ask ourselves what impact am I making, or how can I make an impact? I have an answer.
We reciprocate kindness. It’s something so simple yet extremely powerful.
Can you imagine a world where people were just more kind. Kind as in soft hearted, thoughtful, helpful, loving, full of compassionate and sincerity.
You hear about acts of kindness, you hear how contagious it is but what is an act of kindness really.
An act of kindness is a selfless act you do for someone or something for the mere fact of making them feel good and expecting nothing in exchange. That’s a very simple explanation.
In result of these actions, these acts of kindness, you feel good. You feel really good, you feel positive, you feel and you know you are making an impact in someway. If you are unaware of this, YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE with every kind thing that you do.
You don’t need to know the results of whatever good acts of kindness you are doing because in your heart you know these good deeds are impactful and will go further then you can possibly imagine.
Kindness is extremely contagious. Which is why we need to be more kind to one another.
Even just witnessing an act of kindness makes you feel good! Have you ever noticed that?
In performing more acts of kindness you are spreading magic.
When someone does something nice for YOU, don’t you feel a need and a desire to reciprocate it. You want to return the gesture because you keep in mind how good it made you feel and you want to pay it forward.
All this kindness feels so good because it releases that love hormone you’ve heard about, oxytocin.
A hormone that is released through intimacy, hugging, childbirth, and that’s just to name a few! Overall I think we all can agree it’s a pretty good feeling.
I feel like often we are reminded how cruel this world can be. Whether it be something we watch on the news or see on social media, or hear maybe on the radio.
It’s crucial to not let these bad things that exist harden your heart and to stay strong with your ‘kindness armor’.
Being a Mother I worry a lot about my children and this world they are growing up in. But I know if we are all just more kind this world really can be a better place.
I challenge you to do more acts of kindness. Empathize with one another and choose to love. We are all in this together. We are one.
No matter how big or small you think you are, you play a huge part in this life and world and plan. Lift those who are weak, continue to strengthen yourself to help others, and never give up on the vision that you have for a better place.
Being a Mom can be challenging. That’s the truth, and for many different reasons and unique situations.
While Motherhood is absolutely amazing and very humbling, it’s full of struggles, hardship and what many other Mothers would call ‘Mom guilt’.
You really won’t hear too many Mothers going around talking about the struggles they have with parenting, a lot of times we keep our hard times to ourselves.
Why? Because we are ashamed to even have these feelings and emotions. We feel embarrassed and unworthy at times. It’s difficult when these types of moods occur.
I got to a point in this Motherhood journey where I knew I needed to change myself. Some of my actions were definitely uncalled for. How could I expect my little one to control their temper when I could barely control my own.
I found myself constantly complaining and it felt like I was pouring out nothing but negative things. I was loosing my patience on my toddlers. I was crying because of my behavior. I was disappointed in myself. I couldn’t believe some of the things I did and said. I truly felt unrecognizable.
My faith has always been important to me. Even more important and guiding once I became a Mother. I knew at this point where I was that I needed to be put in my place. I needed perspective and I needed an adjustment in my attitude.
When I decided that I needed to do something, a devotional book came to mind. In the past I would watch motivating videos on YouTube in hopes of being inspired or driven in some way. This time, I wanted something tangible and something that I could reference back to when needed.
I also knew a devotional book would strengthen my relationship with God, which is what I really needed. I needed help with Mothering my children because I was tired and burnt out to say the least.
I went onto amazon and I believe I typed in, ‘women’s devotional book’. Trusting God Day By Day: 365 Daily Devotionals by Joyce Meyer was one of the books that showed up in my search.
I choose that specific devotional book because of the numerous great reviews.
Mothers, I want you to try reading a devotional everyday, preferably from a devotional book. I personally suggest a book because more is said then just the devotional itself. Insight is shared, perspective is gained, and the author finds a way to connect you with their words, that you can apply to your every day life.
Try reading a devotional first thing in the morning, if not first thing in the morning then sometime during the day.
(note: When you are reading your devotional have your bible, a journal, and a pen handy. Write down whatever stands out to you, or write down more specifically, what it means to you.)
I would like to share that reading a devotional everyday has truly helped me with my Mothering. I am more patient then I was, I am more empathetic, and I have gained more self control.
A few slips are going to happen. You’re human. However you will get closer and closer to where you want to be. You got this Mama! I am praying for you!
This is the devotional book I am currently reading daily and I am so grateful!
I’m so incredibly thankful for this journey and my beautiful daughters who have brought new colors into my world. Thank you so much for reading. I hope this will bring more peace to you and your family if you choose to try this.
“Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.”
I have always enjoyed writing. Not always anything specific, but just simply writing. It’s very therapeutic and relieving for me. I have tons of notebooks laying around with the most random things written in them as we speak. I get a good chuckle here and there when I rummage through and read them, and other times, lets just say I find myself blushing from embarrassment. What would my husband or kids think if they read this right now….lol oh gosh.
Something I really, really, REALLY, regret doing is throwing away my teen journals. I was so taken back, a lot of the things I wrote were very personal and not the fondest memories when I would re-read my entries. They brought back pain or humiliation that I didn’t want to re-experience every time I re-read them. So like a dummy, I threw them away.
However, now that I am older and more “mature” I would really love to go back and re read what I was feeling in those days and compare to where I am now in my life.
But unfortunately those journals are long gone. It truly breaks my heart, but the lesson I learned in that is don’t throw away your writings. No matter what pain or grief some of your writings may bring, don’t toss them.
Your writings are your own little time capsule and it’s a great way to reflect on how far you’ve come. You may even learn a thing or two from well, YOURSELF.
With all that being said, a couple of days ago I was exploring all the notes I had stored in my phone. When something comes to mind I like to write it down so I don’t forget.
I stumbled across a list of my own lines that are ‘life advice’ related that I feel like sharing. After reading my ‘life advice’ I was wondering what the hell I was reading at that moment of writing these lol. They surprised me a little.
I consider myself pretty silly, but sometimes I can get pretty deep.
These are a few of my own little life lessons that I have learned through my own experiences. Maybe you can relate or you can apply my words into your life somehow.
Wishing you happiness and many blessings
Some life advice by yours truly
You can’t unscramble an egg once it’s been scrambled. But you know what you can do…..throw it into a burrito with some potatoes and cheese.
You are going to make mistakes in your life. Mistakes and failures are inevitable. But that’s part of living. I’m sure you can think of a thing or two you wish you could take back but you can’t go back and hit any type of rewind button. However, you can control your reaction to the matter and how you plan on handling it. Think before you act, and hear the words in your head before you speak are to name a few. Remember, you can’t unscramble an egg once it’s been scrambled. But again, just because it’s scrambled now doesn’t mean you cant make a bad situation a good situation.
Don’t let every decision be like picking a paint color.
First of all, have you ever picked paint colors? It’s a little bit of nightmare, especially when trying to agree on colors with your significant other.
Don’t allow little simple decisions in your life to cause you any type of stress or anxiety. Whatever you pick may not be what you wanted, but be open to surprises and open to embracing something new. And always be confident in whatever you choose. It may not be what you thought…it may be better.
If you were granted a new life you would soon realize it’s not at all what you really wanted.
You are exactly where you need to be. Everything that has happened in your life thus far has been apart of the shaping of where you are now and will continue to shape you through the rest of your life. You would be surprised how much would be taken away in your life right now if you were to have a different life. A different path taken in the past wouldn’t lead you to where you are now. Look for the things in your life right now to be grateful for. And if you’re wishing for a new life, you’re spending too much time comparing your life to someone else’s. Especially…..ESPECIALLY someone on social media.
Plan on things not going according to plan.
Isn’t this how the cookie always crumbles? It’s usually in your favor or against your favor. It ends up going better then planned or maybe worse. Accept that that is just how it is and laugh at it. Continue to make plans in life and don’t ever stop but if something changes along the way welcome the surprise whether it be good or bad. Whatever happened or happens, has a reason…..whether you know the result of it or not.
Your heart will always lead you in the right direction. It’s up to you to listen to it.
Our hearts are often ignored. We humans are very fragile, easily manipulated, and very persuasive. Whatever is going on in your life should always be reevaluated from time to time. Our lives get so busy it’s important to pause, take a step back, and recognize where you are. Are you where you want to be…what is it that you truly want in this life.
Allow yourself some alone time with no distractions and listen to what your heart is telling you. You may not be happy with what is saying. No one else knows what your heart is saying but YOU. You are also the only one that can obey it. Whether you listen or not, it has a voice for a reason.
But how does it make you feel?
This is a question to ask yourself often. This question can be asked with almost every little thing that you do. If whatever it is, is making you angry, sad, hurt, bored, frustrated, etc. anything negative basically…it’s time to figure it out. Those types of things in life that aren’t providing happiness and joy are only going to hold you back from reaching even more happiness and joy in your life. Doesn’t necessarily mean you need to “let it all go” but it’s time to look for a solution to change that feeling. It is possible to turn the most dull tasks into pleasant ones. Get creative and open your heart and mind to inspiration.
Scars are medals of obstacles conquered.
We are often ashamed of our scars. Doing our best to hide them so no one knows the truth. For some, the cut has been so deep they have a difficult time even acknowledging it’s existence.
Be proud of your scars. Your scars tell a story that no one else can. A scar is also something no one else can take away from you. It is yours and you should be owning it. Don’t be afraid or feel a need to hide your scars. Inspire others with your story. You are strong and courageous. You are still here.
Cry with your wounds, for one day the sun shall shine bright again.
Hard things are going to happen in your life. Really hard things. Hard things that leave you gasping for air and leave you feeling alone and confused. When those things happen, cry with your wounds and broken heart. Let your tears fall and feel all those emotions that are ripping through your soul.
Through this horrific rainstorm remember the promise of the rainbow. The sun will shine bright again, it will. Even when it feels like it never ever will. The sun will shine bright again.
Always say thank you, ALWAYS.
First of all, it’s just good manners to say thank you. Second, nobody owes you anything. I know that sounds a little harsh, but no one owes you anything in this life. Everything is earned and worked for.
People do nice things because they want to, not because they have to. Saying thank you often will take you farther then someone who does not appreciate nice gestures.
You always have enough to give.
Whether it be your time, your energy, or even your last dollar…..you will always have enough to serve another person. You get what you give. Plus, it’s proven that giving to others provides more happiness in your life.
There is more then one right way to do something. Be confident in YOUR WAY.
We don’t live in a black and white world. We live in a world that is full and colorful. No one in the world is you, and no one can do things like YOU do. Rather then trying to follow the crowd, discover your own way and be confident in your own direction or method. Be willing to share that way with others. But encourage others your way isn’t the only way. Help others find THEIR way. The destination may be the same, but the path doesn’t have to be. Find the path that matches YOUR needs.
You don’t always get what you want, but you get what you need.
Things happen in life that are unpredictable.
These types of incidents are a blessing in disguise. You may realize it sooner or you may realize it ten years later. Maybe even later. Be grateful when you can recognize it.
We are always provided the tools we need to help us and guide us in this life. May not come in the prettiest wrapping but all things are gifts. Some things have to happen in order for other things to happen. Please remember, that God loves you. He can see the whole picture, we can’t. Trust him.
I would love to hear from! Share your growth!
Do you have any life advice to share or maybe something someone told you that you never forgot!
Please comment with any thoughts or concerns! Have a great day! Thank you for stopping by!
Psalm: 147:4 He determines the number of the stars; he calls them each by name.
Don’t Be A Fool. Recognize Your Dependence On God. As The Days Become Dark And The Nights Become Dreary, Realize That There Is A God Who Rules Above.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
You may already know GOD loves you. You’ve been told he loves you and you believe it and just accept it. But you don’t feel you KNOW IT.
Does that make sense?
It wasn’t until I had my first daughter that I really understood God’s Love and how much he truly loves me. Not just me, all of you. We are all his children.
I don’t want someone reading this to feel they will only understand God’s love if they have a child. That was the moment that I realized. You may have your own way or maybe that moment hasn’t arrived yet. Have faith that it will.
In this post I really hope I can help you to understand the love that The Creator Of The Entire Universe has for you. Even if its just a little bit.
Unconditional love is a real. It truly is so real. Unconditional love is a love without any limitations. You just love. You love so much. Having my first daughter, holding this little girl that I created did something to me. I became aware of a love that I didn’t even know existed.
Holding her I knew I would do anything for her, that I would really do anything for her. She is apart of me. She is mine. At that moment, I felt the need to always protect, provide, and guide her in whatever that she does in her life. And I of course still feel this way…..x’s 2 now with two daughters!
Below are two perspectives to think about. That I feel may help you to understand the LOVE that your GOD has for you.
PERSPECTIVE NUMBER ONE
Think of your child or children right now. If you don’t have a child or children imagine for just a moment, that you have a child.
What do you want for them? or What would you want for them?
Just think about that……
Being a parent whether you are a Mother or Father you want the best for your children. You want them to always be happy, to succeed, to not be afraid, to love themselves, and deep down to always need you and keep you involved in their life.
Because as they get older….. no matter what, you will always see that child in their face. Your heart breaks just thinking of a any time where they won’t need you anymore.
But the truth is, they will always need you and you will always need them.
YOU ARE GODS CHILD. GOD IS YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER
Those things you just thought about…..those things that you want for your child or children or imaginary child……
He wants all those things for you AND MORE. His love is more then unconditional…..it’s…….I don’t even know! It’s MORE!
GOD wants to see you happy, he wants you to succeed, he wants to see you living your life and accomplishing what your soul desires.
PERSPECTIVE NUMBER 2
Think of your child or children again. Or think of your imaginary child.
As a parent you get upset with your child at times. You become frustrated with them. You ask why are you doing that? What was the purpose of doing that? Their behavior at times leaves you baffled.
YOU KNOW THOUGH IN YOUR HEART……NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO, YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE THEM.
Whenever I get upset, I take a step back and wonder how many times has GOD has asked those questions with me. Why is she doing that? She knows she shouldn’t be doing….why isn’t she listening to me? Those thoughts put me into place real fast.
I forgive my children the way I would like GOD to forgive me, for the times I have disappointed or upset.
I have moments where I ask my daughters what is it that you want, I can’t help you if you don’t tell me is what I tell them.
GOD works the same way. You need to talk to him. Tell him what you need from him, express your need for guidance and help.
You tell him through PRAYER.
Having a child you want to give them everything that they desire. GOD wants to give you everything your heart wants but if its not expressed through prayer how can he give it to you.
People think, He’s GOD, he should know what I want.
But it doesn’t work like that. A relationship needs to be established.
Here’s an example:
A Mother has a child. The child needs the Mother. The child relies on the Mother for many things. As the child gets older the relationship they once had changes. The child wants to become independent.
(GOD CREATES YOU)
The child is now an adult. The adult and the Mother do not talk at all anymore. The Mother who brought this child into the world still loves this child and will always love this child even though they have lost touch.
(AS YOU GET OLDER, LIFE HAPPENS, YOU LOSE YOUR FAITH)
The adult does not talk to the Mother, contact the Mother, or wants anything to do with the Mother for whatever reason.
(YOU DONT TALK TO GOD ANYMORE, YOU MAY NOT EVEN BELIEVE IN HIM ANYMORE)
The Mother wants a relationship with the child again but the adult chooses to continue living life without his Mother. He makes the choice to push her away.
(GOD WANTS A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU, BUT HE GAVE YOU FREE WILL)
The Mother wants to help the adult (her child) in anyway that she can.
(HE WANTS TO HELP YOU SO MUCH BUT YOU DON’T TELL HIM WHAT YOU NEED)
But how can she help and give him what he needs if her child will not talk to her.
(GOD TRIES TO REACH, BUT IS CONSTANTLY IGNORED)
She continues to try to establish a relationship with her child again and again. Time after time. But he/she ignores her calls, ignores her letters, ignores anything that has to do with her.
The Mother will never give it up, I can tell you that.
(GOD WILL NEVER GIVE UP ON YOU BECAUSE HE LOVES YOU)
In this scenario GOD is the Mother and you are the Adult (his child).
As I tried to make clear in the parenthesis
*Re-read that and just think about it*
He tries to talk to you daily and he wants to hear from you. I believe it is so important to build your relationship with your Heavenly Father. That is the key to living your best life.
As a Mother I would be absolutely devastated if my daughters decided not to talk to me anymore.
I want GOD in my life.
I want his help, I want him to know how I am doing, I want his guidance and wisdom to help me live this life.
I KNOW…..I know God wants this from me because I want this from my daughters. I want them to always need me, to always love me, to talk to me, to learn from me.
John 4:16 And So We Know And Rely On The Love God Has For Us. God Is Love. Whoever Lives In Love Lives In God, And God In Them.
I hope this post gets you thinking a little bit and helps you to understand how loved you are and how he wants to hear from you.
When you pray and seek wisdom from the Creator Of The Universe, your life will be changed forever.
If you have never prayed or don’t know what to pray for I put together a prayer below to help you re-create a relationship with your Heavenly father.
An guide of what you can pray for,
I pray for my family. That peace and comfort will be provided to them when it is needed and that they pray themselves and create a relationship with their GOD.
I pray to always impact others in a positive way. To always be aware of my actions and words. To be aware who I may be influencing.
I pray to never lose my hunger to learn and grow. That I may take advantage of every opportunity to grow and strengthen myself in all aspects.
I pray for knowledge and awareness. That I will always be aware of what was here before me and what will be here after my time.
I pray for lost souls. I pray that those that are lost will find their way and awaken. That they may find their way somehow.
I pray for wisdom. That I may share whatever wisdom I have with others. Somehow that my story when shared will influence in some type of positive way.
I pray for gratitude. To never take anything for granted and to recognize the things that I do take for granted.
I pray for guidance. That I may be guided in this life to always follow my heart and to hear the inner voice from within.
I pray for protection. Protection from harm, toxic relationships, anything that may damage my soul in anyway or harm me.
I pray for wonder and curiosity. To always ask questions and seek more then I am given. To have the courage to test certain limits with your approval.
I pray for obedience. To always do what is right and to acknowledge and correct when I am in the wrong. To especially obey my intuition when I am being alerted that something is not right.
I pray to be giving. To provide what I can, share what I can, and recognize opportunities to give in anyway. Whether it be a smile, opening a door, contributing to a fund, giving my time to something or someone.
I pray for loyalty. That I may earn the trust of others and stay true to my word. That I may be reliable and provide a relationship that is cherished.
I pray to always recognize that beauty that surrounds me. The beauty in nature, the beauty in relationships, the beauty in man made things, the beauty of the mind and body, the beauty in everything.
I pray to learn from peoples journeys. That I may apply their teachings to my life. That they may help me to reflect and be thankful for where I am and what I have.
I pray for courage. To stand up for what I believe in, for what is right, and to stand for those who can’t. To not worry, and always see the best possible outcome for all things.
I pray for Love. That I may always feel love in my heart. That I may share love with others and help others to love themselves and life.
I pray for the future. That I may do my part in contributing to a better place for future generations.
I pray for forgiveness. To recognize when I am wrong, to acknowledge it, and to ask for forgiveness.
I pray to always be eager to help and support people. To always encourage others to have faith, to inspire, and to make a difference.
I pray for good health. That I may treat my body as a sanctuary and always be cautious as to what I am putting into it. That I may also always recognize when my health needs attention in any way.
I pray for strength against temptation. That I may always be stronger to resist any urge to do something that is wrong.
I pray for patience. Patience with me, patience for myself, patience in all things.
I pray for these things in the name of the Son Jesus Christ, Amen.
This Post is for my Daughters. I thank GOD for them every day.